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I live by myself. Do you guys think I'll need round the clock help for a few days? I'd much rather stay home, but I could plan to stay at my moms if you guys think it's needed

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I think that's more or less a person to person situation. I know if my wife didn't take time off of work that I would have struggled. I wouldn't have been capable of taking care of my daughter. I'm 6 days post-op now and I'm still having difficulties bending and lifting light objects. I would at least stay with someone for a few days, and if you're feeling better, you can always go home. Best of luck.

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Yes. I would stay with someone. I was for the most part ok especially since I had a recliner and bathroom on the same floor. I just know I was pretty weak and I was glad to just have someone there. Good luck

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My husband and daughter was a God send. My recovery would have not been so successful if not for their support. Stay with someone you will need that support.

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God is always on my side. I say this because I'm a very strong woman. I have done everything alone. Had 3 csections same day of discharge on all 3 I was making dinner taking care of the babies. After gastric by pass the next day after discharge I was food shopping. Lifting the grocery my daughter did it but I was walking slowly but didn't struggle at all. This doesn't mean anyone is weak it only means its not impossible to do things on your own. I can't count on my husband and that's ashamed. I do wish he was more supported & helpful but he feels the only responsibility he has is to work & pay all the bills which he does so god made me extra strong because I basically only have my 15 year old to lean on if I needed her help which she never refuse to help me out. If I'm sick she takes care of her siblings & makes me Soup. I'm so glad I have my teenager.

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Unfortunately I didn't have any help when I first got home, but I also experienced a burst of energy upon being at home and was able to take care of myself. When family arrived home in the evening I allowed them to wait on me so I could get my strength for the following day. It worked out in the end for me. Family was as helpful as they could be and at least kept up the home by doing laundry and cleaning. I mostly did little things while they were gone to have an excuse to get up and walk for a while. Worked for me. Everyone is different, do what you feel is right!

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I really think a couple of days at your Mom's might be a good idea. And then you will feel great getting back into your own home and routine. But let Mom take care of you for a couple of days. I am sure you could manage fine on your own, but why chance it if you don't have to. Espeically with the holidays and everything. Just don't let them wait on you too much you still need to get up and walk around the house and remember to keep getting the liquids in.

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I too think you should stay at your mom's. I'm day 6 post op. and can't bend over to pick up anything on the floor. That being said if my pants /underwear fall too low after getting off the hopper, I could not bend to grab them. Those incision sites are sore.

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Thanks for the advice guys, merry Christmas :)

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My mom and dad came and stayed with me and it was a huge help! It's also nice just in case you need help. It was also kinda of nice getting pampered for a few days!

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I thought I would be fine by myself but I ended up needing help for a few days. Also, for me it was an emotional time and it was nice to have someone there to talk to and offer support.

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It's better to be safe then sorry when people dont need help that is great more power to them but a couple of days after surgery would be ok, and if you feel like i can go home after a day or two then do so.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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