m going to a party tonight to watch the fight and celebrate a friends bday. my friends supportive shes had the lap band and knows somewhat of what im going through but she made it a point to tell me she feels bad bc of all the yummy food and drinking thts going to be there. i told her i wld be ok but really im going to be dying... lol im not physiclly hungry but ive found my self wanting sweets and food. help!! idk what i can do. i have even started to chew something yummy n spit it out just for the taste. it sickens me tht i cant be strong.

I do it too. But just think you are being strong! You are spitting it out and not eating three brownies!!! :-)

I know exactly where you are coming from !!! A week after I had RNY I was back to work, we had a baby shower for a good work friend, only 2 people knew at the party that I had surgery, the girl the party was for and my BFF work friend. I was on liquid at that point and there were tons of great homemade foods, but I really did not want any, I was worried that everyone at work would notice I did not eat and that I was just sipping my water. But no one even noticed.... i stressed out over nothing and the party was great, I helped set up the food and helped clean up without a craving what so ever, I was not even hungry.. it really did not bother me, it was all in my head.