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mishab    10

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My husband and my doctor right now are the only ones who know that I am planning RNY surgery in April 2013. My husband had it 6 yrs ago and regrets telling so many people he did it. Is is even feasible to think I could do this without telling anyone? Not even my parents?? Anyone do it and not tell anyone??

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tlbr8408    20

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I'm hoping to do the same--not tell anyone except for a select few of supportive people... Good luck to you :)

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BBdoodle    483

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Yes... it can be done. I only told my sister, my 2 BFF's and 3 people in work with one being my boss. Your business is YOUR business.. you don't have to tell anyone!! In my opinion... the less people you tell the better off you are. When people say "wow you lost weight you look good", I say thank you :) if they ask how am I doing it I say diet and exercise.

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worm2872    635

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I told my BF hubby and only once the surgery was scheduled my mom. No one else in my family knows. I did not even tell my boss. It can be done. :-).

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lynn    49

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My husband and my mom are the only ones that know i had it done. I had my gallbladder removed at the same time. so when people ask about my weight loss i just tell them i had my gallbladder removed and now there is food i cant eat plus i gave up sugar cause of family history of diabetes.

Sent from my DROID RAZR using RNYTalk

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jaymi2521    13

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My husband and my doctor right now are the only ones who know that I am planning RNY surgery in April 2013. My husband had it 6 yrs ago and regrets telling so many people he did it. Is is even feasible to think I could do this without telling anyone? Not even my parents?? Anyone do it and not tell anyone??

I don't feel the need to tell anyone.... Except u all lol. Only because people r so judgmental and I don't have time for that mess. Also because I no they will start telling me all the reasons as to y I shouldn't do it. Like someone said, once u start losing the weight and they ask how, I will say I started watching what I was eating and exercise, because that would be the truth.

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dstumpfol    5

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I don't feel the need to tell anyone.... Except u all lol. Only because people r so judgmental and I don't have time for that mess. Also because I no they will start telling me all the reasons as to y I shouldn't do it. Like someone said' date=' once u start losing the weight and they ask how, I will say I started watching what I was eating and exercise, because that would be the truth.[/quote']

I did not feel the need to broadcast it! I have not for any other medical procedure so it would be unlike me. It a change and I make lots of them and in this area I have not have had as much success as I would like. So, till I have that and know that i can be successful I will be working with this support. The support of people who really get the challenges of not having seccess at other weightloss and saying this is for me!

Dawn<br />Sent from my SPH-L710 using RNYTalk

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mishab    10

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Thanks everyone! I am down 6 lbs in just two weeks as I have begun following a 1200 cal plan and am religiously walking 30 min each day on the treadmill. I guess the surgery will just be a continuation of my weight loss!! Keeping my lips zipped!

RNY Planned 4/2013. starting wt 248. BMI 43.9. Sent from my iPhone using RNYTalk

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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