Just out of curiosity, did you tell most everyone that you were having gastric bypass surgery or keep it under wraps? I've told my family members and a few close friends, but that's it for the most part. Most FB friends, church friends, etc. don't know I'm having it next week. I'm not unashamed of having it, but I guess I'm afraid there will be people who will criticize me for choosing to have it, even though my cardiologist says if I don't get my blood pressure lowered soon I'm going to have a stroke.

I was lucky because one of my coworkers had the surgery 2 years ago. She was very open about her surgery and everyone was very supportive, so I knew I would also get support at work.

I was lucky because one of my coworkers had the surgery 2 years ago. She was very open about her surgery and everyone was very supportive, so I knew I would also get support at work.

I am only telling the close fam as in my mom maybe my dad but I dont plan on telling any one other then that. I guess its because people in my life have alway said things about my weight from fam to doctors. So I guess in not telling any one and I dont plan on seeing the people I dont plan on telling for a while then when they do see the "new" me then frankly they can eat their words about saying I cant lose it! wow that sounded worse here then it does in my head. LOL

understand perfectly Wanda. This process is hard enough with negativity around us. Tell those who you think will support you and just "show" the rest.

I am only telling the close fam as in my mom maybe my dad but I dont plan on telling any one other then that. I guess its because people in my life have alway said things about my weight from fam to doctors. So I guess in not telling any one and I dont plan on seeing the people I dont plan on telling for a while then when they do see the "new" me then frankly they can eat their words about saying I cant lose it! wow that sounded worse here then it does in my head. LOL

That's right eat there words