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How morbid were your thoughts leading up to your surgery?

Now that I'm 14 day away I think of it consistently try not to but of corse my mind always comes back to my new life.

I am also trying really hard not to think the worst or the bad but their is a chance.

I know the percentage is so low now but think that i may not waking up from surgery makes me think I am selfish for wanting this

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I had those same feelings but realize that if your doctor thought you weren't safe for surgery he would never agree to it. And trust me ppl get turned away for being too sick all the time. They care about you and dont want anythjng bad to happen to uou or lose their license. How safe and healthy will you be in 10 years if you continue on your same path wo surgery?

I felt better and more in control by making a will and writing just in case letters to my kids. Maybe a bit overboard but assuring.

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You are doing the right thing not just for yourself but for your kids if you have any. And your family that loves you and would like you to be around for a long time.

We play the what if game. if you Belive in your Doctor you will be just fine. Chances are you are not his first Gastric Bypass and the team that works with him will take good care of you. Trust in your Doctor

You will be fine Good Luck can't wait to see you on this side

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Is it selfish to want to live a happy, healthy life? If so, then everyone is selfish. Is it selfish to want to feel good about yourself? If so, then everyone is selfish. Is it selfish to want to enjoy a long life of sharing, laughing, and loving with friends and loved ones? If so, then everyone is selfish. Is it selfish to accept a minimal degree of risk in exchange for an undeniably life changing option? Or is it just being an intelligent, courageous, rational human being?

Selfish? Not from where I'm sitting. Scared? 99% of folks contemplating surgery are scared and the other 1% are liars. Courage is not about never taking a risk. Courage is not about never being afraid. Courage is about doing what you believe to be right and for all the right reasons - in spite of being afraid. You're gonna love the new you!!

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I actually wrote a letter to my son in case I didn't make it home :/ I am typically ms. Happy go lucky and little gets to me! But you are looking at a major procedure, there are risks, I think the fact that you're taking it to heart is probably a good thing.

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DL; I could read your posts all day, you are the most inspirational person in this site.

Soccer mom: I did the same thing with the letter and I did a very simple will, making sure my 10 year old son was protected in any and every way. To me that is love.

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DL; I could read your posts all day' date=' you are the most inspirational person in this site.

Soccer mom: I did the same thing with the letter and I did a very simple will, making sure my 10 year old son was protected in any and every way. To me that is love.[/quote']

I already had the will in place....single mom, tend to obsess about the little guy's future . Glad I'm not the only crazy momma out there that had those thoughts though!!!!!

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