I have decided not to tell anyone about my surgery. Only my hubby and BF (who had it last year) will know. And the Dr. of course. My mother would have a stroke and others are so ignorant I don't want to deal with it. I am also terrifed. I have never had surgery or been on any pain meds before. I am afraid they will scare me out of it. I know my employer LOA dept will have some of the details but I have just telling my manager it's surgery.

Thoughts?

Absolute, complete nonsense. Almost as ridiculous as arguing with your future mother-in-law would be! LOL

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Absolutely! Comments like these take all of my strength to just walk away. Keep in mind, I haven't had a cigarette in 3 weeks, so when I hear garbage like that....lol....I keep reminding myself to walk away!

My boss/friend has been concerned just for the fact that all the people she knows have had complications not one have been ok, one throws up most of the time another almost right on the spot use to throw up. Another passed away. ( not sure what it was from ) she thinks it was correlated from the surgery. But I'm not sure if she Foun d out the autopsy results.

She is supportive but concerned which is how most in my circle are

I decided to be honest with people at work but I left it until I had a confirmed date for my op. I've had a mixture of feedback from people, some worried, some skeptical but I just thought honesty wd be the best policy, plus I'm a really bad liar.