Hi, I've posted a few times on here but this time I'll talk about me. I'm 30 years old, I have been married almost 11 years, we have 2 boys, ages 9 and 6. I've been overweight my whole life. I grew up with my mom telling me about my aunt who was overweight but slimmed down once she started her period. So my mon would let me eat and drink pretty much whatever I wanted. I have a friend who can recall when I'd go to her house as a 9/10 year old and I'd have a bag (big bag) of Doritos. She'd worry about my health and I'd explain that it's just baby fat, I'll lose it when I get my period. Well, I never lost the baby fat. I did weight watchers several times with my mom, I did the Atkins diet, I wanted to go on phen-phen but it was too late, I tried several other things, but nothing worked for me. I needed to change my whole lifestyle. As a teenager I was a size 14/16 and when I got my drivers license at 16 I was 205, I thought I was huge. I got married when I was 20, and I wore a size 18 and I weighed 220. My husband thought my little pudge, as he called it, was cute. When I was pregnant with our first son I gained about 55 lbs, I never lost it. I joined a gym and lost 15 lbs. But it was hard to take that time away from my baby. I quit going to the gym. I joined weight watchers again, I lost 20 lbs., but it got to be too expensive so I quit. In 2005 I got pregnant with my youngest, I weighed 285. 9 months later I weighed 274, I only craved healthy good when I was pregnant with him. But after he was born the weight came back on quickly. About 4-5 years ago I had to get my tonsils removed. When they weighed me in I was 316 lbs. I was devastated. I cried to my husband, who tried to console me by telling me that my body fat was the reason we weren't intimate anymore. I was even more devastated.(don't worry he's really not a giant jackass) That was when I decided that I had to do something and I seriously considered gastric bypass. I went to a couple of seminars and my husband went with me. We discussed it for some time and I had even gone through the psych eval, but in the end I decided that I'd try weight watchers again. I tried my hardest, I lost 27 lbs. I was doing great. I had a couple of weeks where I didn't lose and I quit. I went to curves, did good and enjoyed it. But we couldn't afford it so I quit again. I'm sick of the yo-yoing. I went to a seminar 3 hours away from my house on April 2 . I filled out the paperwork and they called within 2 days to schedule an appointment, I had my first true appointment on the 11th, then on the 13th I had my EKG, my blood test, and my chest x-ray. I went back on the 20th for a group nutrition meeting. I have appointments scheduled for my one on one nutrition meeting, my follow up with the surgeon and my last appointment before surgery (provided everything goes well) and I scheduled my psych eval for the first part of June.

My husband is supportive but nervous for my mental health afterwards. Since I'm the one who cooks and prepares the meals he worries that I'll get really depressed due to mental hunger. I understand his very valid concern. Any advise is really appreciated. Thank you all for your support and I look forward to making friends on here and helping each other through tough times. And I'm sorry I am so type/talkative

I'm having doubts lately about having surgery. There is nobody that is talking me out of it except myself. Since march I have lost over 20 lbs on my own. I'm doing it for myself' date=' by myself. Know the surgery would work but I don't know if I'm at the point in my life where I can go through with it. With these doubts I will not undergo surgery. I will however finish all my preop requirements so that if I change my mind in the near future I'll be able to get it done. I wish you all the best. Thank you for being there for me, and for each other.[/quote']

Good decision. If I could've persevered on my own I would have. I don't know your weight or weight goal but people do it all of the time without bypass...I'm just not one of them. I'm so happy that your 6 month pre authorization stage is working for you. Congrats and best wishes! Hope you stick around and continue to be an encouragement to others:)

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To all who don't have a support system. I would do it anyways for yourself. I could've have my surgery in 2008 but I didn't because I had no real support system. Now 2012 regretting it and much heavier. So starting my program all over and doing it this time. Also now all these years later they wanna support me. I could have be at my goal and happy. Never let anyone regardless stop you yourself from being completely happy.

To all who don't have a support system. I would do it anyways for yourself. I could've have my surgery in 2008 but I didn't because I had no real support system. Now 2012 regretting it and much heavier. So starting my program all over and doing it this time. Also now all these years later they wanna support me. I could have be at my goal and happy. Never let anyone regardless stop you yourself from being completely happy.

To all who don't have a support system. I would do it anyways for yourself. I could've have my surgery in 2008 but I didn't because I had no real support system. Now 2012 regretting it and much heavier. So starting my program all over and doing it this time. Also now all these years later they wanna support me. I could have be at my goal and happy. Never let anyone regardless stop you yourself from being completely happy.

I'm having doubts lately about having surgery. There is nobody that is talking me out of it except myself. Since march I have lost over 20 lbs on my own. I'm doing it for myself, by myself. Know the surgery would work but I don't know if I'm at the point in my life where I can go through with it. With these doubts I will not undergo surgery. I will however finish all my preop requirements so that if I change my mind in the near future I'll be able to get it done. I wish you all the best. Thank you for being there for me, and for each other.

I think you are making the right decision. People should have surgery when they feel ready. You can get a dietician that will help you lose weight,and I think you will do just fine if you lost 20pounds with out any problem.

I'm not trying to talk you out of it but if I knew then what I know now I would not do it.....and I've decided that my husband can not do it!

I'm not trying to talk you out of it but if I knew then what I know now I would not do it.....and I've decided that my husband can not do it!

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Everybody is different . Some people regret the surgery . The surgery was a must for me . The complications from obesity are WAY WORSE then the surgery. Do what your gut feels!!! Thank god I'm doing great and I'm very very happy with my choice !!!