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Approved for Surgery & No one to tell

MsK1972

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Sofficial    162

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I know

I only told my husband and children also. People argue all the time about "secrets" and "Shame". It has nothing to do with that. The bottom line is, it's nobody's damn business! I don't live my life as an open book so why would i disclose personal medical issues? Also, I don't care to hear people's opinions because most would say I didn't need it...I say walk in my shoes before judging! Believe me, most people I know who freely tell about their weight loss surgery are surrounded by people who claim to be happy for them, yet trash talk them behind their backs!

I'm very excited about the surgery so I tell people all the time and take time to explain why its so important for me to have this, and I've been getting pretty good feedback. But today I told my neighbor while we were having small talk and she really pissed me off with all of her negativity. She started telling me that she lost 100lbs on her own by cutting out beef and pork and how her mom had it done in 96' and she's still real heavy. She was really drilling me!!!! Like it was her sole mission to convince me to not have the surgery. I mean what does me having this done have to do with you!! At that point I told myself I'm done with telling anymore people, I don't have time for the negativity. And I also think one of my best friends is secretly not wanting me to have the sleeve because she's afraid of me getting all of the attention when we go places (now she's getting all of it) and I'm fine with that because getting a lot of attention is one the things that I know I'm going to dread. Back when I was smaller and in shape I used to HATE it when men constantly hit on me. I know it sounds crazy but I am actually enjoying being looked over and ignored LOL, now I have freedom to do things without some man constantly staring and gawking at me. Now I'm getting way off topic, but yes sometimes I believe that other people's negative thoughts can block good things from happening to you. I mean I don't follow that theory to a T, but sometimes I feel its true.

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MsK1972    112

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Jashante thanks for sharing, I completely agree w/you. That's why I'm keeping this to myself, ain't nobody got time FA DAT!! Lol ! I'm excited and ready to get started on my new lifestyle.

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nadoue    158

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Well let me just say after 2 years, only my healthcare staff knows about it. My lips are sealed. And I meant I didn't tell a soul, not my bf, no sis no one. Yeah they cared for me at the hospital for my gallbladder story! No. Regret and living the life

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MsK1972    112

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Nadoue

Thanks....I needed to hear that because I actually told them about the removal of the cyst which is serious and added a little more drama to compensate for how sensitive my belly will be...But in no way am I telling ANY of them about the Sleeve....nope, I don't need the negativity. But I was feeling guilty at first...my mom may be flying in to support me and I started feeling guilty for not telling the ENTIRE tale...but you know what, its nobody's business....its just not. i am so glad i have this site...it really is a huge support system..

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nadoue    158

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Nadoue

Thanks....I needed to hear that because I actually told them about the removal of the cyst which is serious and added a little more drama to compensate for how sensitive my belly will be...But in no way am I telling ANY of them about the Sleeve....nope' date=' I don't need the negativity. But I was feeling guilty at first...my mom may be flying in to support me and I started feeling guilty for not telling the ENTIRE tale...but you know what, its nobody's business....its just not. i am so glad i have this site...it really is a huge support system..[/quote']

You will be fine, my family flew from Florida to take care of me and I keep it a secret. No guilt no shame. It's my business and I don't see how it is important to tell

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MsK1972    112

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You did Lipsticklady...Lol! You just weren't expecting to, I guess it's good that I already know. Ps. I hope all is well and the mass was benign!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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