Really? Really, youve got to be kidding me!

[Madam Reverie 2,958]

I would hazard a guess that by saying the word 'bariatric' you held up a mirror to her own predicament.

Consequently and as a means to rationalise, she went on her highly personal interrogation to compare and contrast your positions because she sees you as the same (hence the 'let me see your belly' comment). Apart from some people being unable to censor some of the things they say in the real world, most of the time and when it's 'gut shot' like that, it is rarely about you, the recipient.

It is just an outpouring of their own sensitivities just being projected onto you and your situation. It is coming from someone who is in her head trying to justify why a) she's overweight, knowing it has impacted her life significantly hasn't been approved for/cant afford/is scared of the surgery and c) is probably a bit jealous of your courage or position.

Take it for what it is.. The outpourings of someone who's probably a little lost, a little jealous, a little vocal and with limited social awareness.

[No game 14,436]

I don't know... As to the ops situation, I think it was meant as a compliment? Perhaps the person just didn't have the right words to express the plethora of feelings she might have been feeling right that minute?

If I were significantly bigger than a person that just told me they were having weight loss surgery? I might feel...

Envy "well you know that's dangerous" or I'm trying the old fashion way"

Or embarrassment? "Well you don't look that big" or "I'm trying to eat better and exercise"

Then maybe Camaraderie?

"Girl I know I've been eating smaller amounts but I'm hungry'

Like I said, I don't know.

But really we are doing this for us. The best I can say is try not to trip out on others too much.

[No game 14,436]

I would hazard a guess that by saying the word 'bariatric' you held up a mirror to her own predicament.

Consequently and as a means to rationalise' date=' she went on her highly personal interrogation to compare and contrast your positions because she sees you as the same (hence the 'let me see your belly' comment). Apart from some people being unable to censor some of the things they say in the real world, most of the time and when it's 'gut shot' like that, it is rarely about you, the recipient.

It is just an outpouring of their own sensitivities just being projected onto you and your situation. It is coming from someone who is in her head trying to justify why a) she's overweight, knowing it has impacted her life significantly hasn't been approved for/cant afford/is scared of the surgery and c) is probably a bit jealous of your courage or position.

Take it for what it is.. The outpourings of someone who's probably a little lost, a little jealous, a little vocal and with limited social awareness.[/quote']

**** while I was hen peck typing you said pretty much the same thing, except written with a certain.... Ummm... Lets see.... Oh yeah! A "je ne sais quoi" that I do not possess

[NoneYa 380]

I don't feel good today and I don't have a drop of Je ne sais quio in me anyway. I reread paragraph 2 from the OP and there is not a blasted thing that reads compliment or a remote possibility of a compliment to me. Jealousy, check. Socially inept check. Embarrassed, Serious doubts ( at least when I am embarrassed I try to escape a situation, not wail " show me your belly" in a Dr's office, with a growing line no less!) Camaraderie, Don't buy it. I still see nothing but a woman that is likely jealous and has no personal filter (unprofessional employee). She has probably created similar issues with other patients of a similar BMI as the original poster.

[No game 14,436]

I don't feel good today and I don't have a drop of Je ne sais quio in me anyway. I reread paragraph 2 from the OP and there is not a blasted thing that reads compliment or a remote possibility of a compliment to me. Jealousy' date=' check. Socially inept check. Embarrassed, Serious doubts ( at least when I am embarrassed I try to escape a situation, not wail " show me your belly" in a Dr's office, with a growing line no less!) Camaraderie, Don't buy it. I still see nothing but a woman that is likely jealous and has no personal filter (unprofessional employee). She has probably created similar issues with other patients of a similar BMI as the original poster.[/quote']

Lol! Are you by chance a month out?

If you are, I'm walking away very slowly....

[epc317 13]

I had a similar experience with the woman who registered me at the hospital for my pre-op testing. When she started asking me info and realized what kind of surgery I was testing for, she went on and on about how I really don't need it, and she used to be bigger, but lost weight due to a depressive incident and not eating because of it. The whole time, I was thinking "Ok nutty lady, you can stop any time now." People always have a tendency to tell me their life story, but this got really awkward. I thought a medical professional should be just that... professional. Geez.

[gamergirl 4,609]

Lol! Are you by chance a month out?

If you are' date=' I'm walking away very slowly....

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Is this common a month out? I need to prepare. Not so much myself but maybe those around me

[NoneYa 380]

Lol! Are you by chance a month out?

If you are, I'm walking away very slowly....

Why yes! Does it show?

[NoneYa 380]

Is this common a month out? I need to prepare. Not so much myself but maybe those around me

What this? What did I do?

[Ms.Yvette 96]

You could have just looked at the positive side of it. She paid you a compliment when she stood you weren't big enough. Lol. But thats exactly why I refuse to tell anyone other than a selected few. Good luck slim lol.

[Tiny One 223]

Very inappropriate. In the medical professional, does she not understand her limits. There's a federal law that protects your "personal health information." In no way should she have asked you anything about why you were there. I would report her ass!!!!!

[gamergirl 4,609]

What this? What did I do?

Nothing love. We're just gently teasing you. With love. Personally I liked how you were totally decisive about your opinion. I'm usually like that even wait benefit of surgery.

[No game 14,436]

Is this common a month out? I need to prepare. Not so much myself but maybe those around me

Why yes! Does it show?

What this? What did I do?

On my! I'm just having fun! Don't hurt me!

No really at about a month out some of us experience the "anger" part, of the 5 stages of grief after going through surgery...

[NoneYa 380]

Do I have that? Maybe. I am pretty cranky. I just feel sick and very weak. My surgeon is far away and doesn't call me back. I am so frustrated trying to stuff enough Protein and Water in to make it go away so I feel stronger but it isn't working yet. I am on my forth huge jug of water for the day which will give me 80oz but its half water and half gatorade with 2 dashes of Fiber shaken in just for FLAVOR!

[AmandaRaeLeo 2,145]

On my! I'm just having fun! Don't hurt me!

No really at about a month out some of us experience the "anger" part' date=' of the 5 stages of grief after going through surgery...

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"Blah, blah, blah" still resonates in my brain from my one month postop self. Sigh....