Last weekend we attended a party for a cousin's child. (See photos in A Chance to Compare.) Last night I got an e-mail from my uncle, who has long been a beloved figure in our lives but whom we only get to see twice a year or so. Since my dad died in 1994 this uncle has served in loco parentis when needed.

He said, essentially, that he was sorry he hadn't had a chance to compliment me on how I looked at the party. He said: "I gather you've reached your objective."

I was stunned, but realize that he hasn't seen me at this weight, well, ever. So that was pretty cool right there. But I wrote back and told him that while I have reached AN objective I'm not done losing weight and hope to lose another 60 or so.

He said: "I'm very proud of you."

Sniff.

Awww.... that's wonderful Alex! I'm so glad your uncle took the time to put his positive thoughts into spoken words! We all need to hear kudos... the affirmations from the people around us can make success so much more real! (((hugs)))

Darcy

Alex, that's wonderful, and truly deserved. Taking the time to tell you that shows why he's so beloved.

Alex, your uncle sounds like a sweetie. I'm glad that he took the time to let you know you were looking good. Sometimes people notice that we've lost weight, but never say it. I'm glad you got encouragement from someone you look up to, you deserve it and more.

Alexandra, It is so nice to have your families support and especially a father figure. I miss my parents very much, but more so my sister Alex, who died of breast cancer at the age of 36 (I was 28). I believe she would have been proud of my decision to be banded as well as my progress.

Your pics of you and your family are awesome!! I'm proud of you too.

This board is my extended family.

Alex, what a nice thing for your uncle to do. He sounds so nice. You do look amazing in your pictures. Your uncle must be so proud of you.

Wow, that almost brings tears to my eyes. It's just further confirmation of how great you do look. I'm so happy for you, ALex.

Nancy

Alex, that was the sweetest story. Your uncle sounds like a dear. I love my uncle too and he was one of the first people I confided in about the band. He married my husband and I five years ago too. Always has had a special place in my heart. Your uncle sounds the same to you. So proud of you and keep up the good work. We love ya, Teresa;)

Oh Alex, that is great!

Thank you for sharing ... it feels so good to read, to know, that it is happening for you ( and many others in here I am sure). I have been convinced for over a decade, that there is no way of getting there permanently, and now this HUGE door opened into a place where it CAN. Like a different reality!

cheers

telli

Originally posted by tellie

I have been convinced for over a decade, that there is no way of getting there permanently, and now this HUGE door opened into a place where it CAN. Like a different reality!

That's EXACTLY how I feel, Tellie. It's literally changed my conception of my future, in a wonderful way. I LOVE MY BAND!!!

aww thats so lovely ! !

great post !

Aud x

Okay the tears are flowing!!!! That's awesome. You know I have lost 50 pounds and NO ONE had complimented me like that. My co-workers have but not family....kinda strange. I wonder do they notice??!!??

Birdee