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What to do with the negAtive nellies and Nay sayers

I'm so sick of people trying to talk me out of having this surgery! Any suggestions???

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There is always going to be someone who has that mind set. I had my fair share. But when we come to this decision it's typically been well thought out . I know me for example I tried EVERYTHING under the sun with multiple doctors, to b-12 shots, to water pills, to medical supervised diets. Nothing worked...it wasn't my thyroid... Food was killing me.. and I can either let it continue to steal my life away from me or do something that would be permanent. Something that would MAKE me change my ways. Something that when I wanted to give up and binge...I couldn't because it won't allow me to. A tool that I need in my life to save me from myself. So let them say what they need say. But remind them that this is your choice and you are choosing to do what you feel is best. People are quick to judge us and tell us what they think is best for us. Hard to have a fulfilling life when you feel trapped and limited to your body. Carrying all that weight on your body is not a better alternative because that leads to just as scary stuff if not worse. Good luck and stay strong and focused on your choices :)

I also have a few people close to me who don't understand what or why I'm doing this. I'm on day 11 of my pre-op diet ( My Dr's is protein shakes and non-starchy veggies only) I've lost 10 lbs so far. One relative says, "Why don't you just keep doing what you're doing?" I just laugh.

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I am so thankful for each response! It is MY choice! Y'all are the best! Have a great day!

I have had my Mum try to talk me out of it because she was uninformed and just scared really. I explained the surgery and made her somewhat more comfortable with the idea.

Annoyingly however, I have had a few people ask if I will be able to stick with the eating plan afterwards. That basically makes me feel like they doubt me even before I've had the surgery. :( I try not to let them get me down but it's difficult!

There are certainly those who worry about our having the surgery because they fear for us. There's another group that worry that it will affect our relationship with them in a negative way (usually the spouse).

The last group are those who have taken a secret comfort in the fact that we're fatter than them and don't want that to change. Some don't even realise it. I would imagine that sometimes it forces others to confront their own fear and procrastination about their own health when they see a friend or family member take this step.

I have told my mom, sister, a couple of my coworkers but that's it. I don't plan on telling that many. I dread telling my dad because he is against it 100% but he fusses about a lot and very old fashioned so I don't let it bother me. I don't want to tell him, and won't until the last minute (bc he's my boss and I live with him too).

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I'm not telling anyone but you all out there (who get it), my god, and the angels that get me through each day.

Everyone else and their opinions can suck it.

I'm tired of living my life for other people.

Do you have any co morbidities? I had 3, and I led every conversation with those 3. The one that was the most effective was the fact that due to my out of control diabetes, I was losing the feeling in my feet and was in danger of losing them in a few years if I didn't do something now. That usually shut up any naysayers.

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