I just had my surgery on 7/25. My brother is getting married in Colorado (in the mountains about 5 hours away from Denver and civilization) on 8/10. I'm supposed to fly up there on the 8th and I've got this horrible internal battle going on over whether or not I should go. My whole family says it's ok if I don't feel up to it, but I'd feel guilty and sad if I didn't go. At the same time, I'm still dealing with pain in my incisions, some pretty foul smelling gas, and I'm an emotional wreck. I don't want to get up there and ruin everything because I can't hardly do anything for myself and I get very irritable very easily. Just the thought of traveling and airports stresses me out right now, which sucks because I usually love flying and traveling.

Not to mention the struggles of still being on a liquid/puréed diet at a wedding. No dinner, no cake, no alcohol. Sounds pretty miserable.

I'm just so torn. It feels like a bad idea to go, like everything added together equals disaster. But, it is my brother's wedding. I don't want to miss it. I've made it to all my other brothers' weddings (five weddings total, including this brother's first wedding and my baby bro's who had it in Hawaii) and I would just feel sooo guilty if I didn't make it.

Anybody have any advice? Sorry about the rambling of this post, it kinda reflects my brain right now.

I think you should go.. As one writer mentioned, this is a milestone in your brothers life. I was back to work in one week and found that moving was the best thing for me. You will be making adjustments to eating etc whether you're home or not. If he died on his honeymoon you would never forgive yourself. (not trying to put a guilt trip on you, but I'm a realist) You won't be a burden if you do exactly as your Dr tells you. Be prepared for the worst, take pre-mixed protein drinks, gas ex etc. I'm sure they would rather have a smelly you then no you at all. Have fun, life is just beginning.

Thank you everyone for your helpful opinions! I decided to go with my gut feeling and not go. I just felt like way too many things could go wrong if I went. It breaks my heart not to go, but I'm such an emotional wreck right now they are probably better off without me there. There would have been a very good chance that I would have a meltdown. Several of you suggested that I retreat to my hotel room if I felt overwhelmed. That actually helped me to make my decision. My family rented a cabin, so there probably wouldn't be anywhere I could retreat to. :-P

Thank y'all again for all your support. I feel so much better now that I have made a decision and hopefully that will help me to heal faster!

One last update.

I'm really glad I went with my guy feeling. I ended up in the ER Saturday because of severe pain from my gallbladder. It would have been horrible to have that happen up in the mountains, five hours away from Denver.

One last update.

I'm really glad I went with my guy feeling. I ended up in the ER Saturday because of severe pain from my gallbladder. It would have been horrible to have that happen up in the mountains' date=' five hours away from Denver.[/quote']

Ow that sounds horrible. Hope you're feeling better.

I think you should go to your brother wedding. Just do the other posters said and ask for broth and take protein shakes