Confession Time :(

[CowgirlJane 14,261]

I have been going through a metamorphisis at warp speed ... and let me tell you a few things I have experienced.

I am 49. Last time I was normal weight, I was 21-22 and that only lasted about 5 minutes. I remember I got alot of attention as I was considered attractive and it freaked me out.

Last time I was just "heavy" and not hugely obese... I was mid to late 20s.

It has been a long time since i have "looked" like an attractive woman.

As I lost weight, I felt sadness by how much time I had lost, how ugly I am, how old I look... all that. I had a period of a couple of months when I couldn't stand to look at my face in the mirror without noticing all the signs of age.

Guess what, none of that is true! I find myself single again and once I got over the shock of how old looking guys my age are...hahaha... i found that I am considered reasonably attractive, most people think I am younger then I am and so far people don't freak out at the fact that i used to be obese and lost alot of weight.

The point of my story is that we are our own worst critics, and your own attitude and personality are a huge part of your beauty. I am so happy and feeling so good that many people have told me that they sense that, they feel it and read it and it is attractive to them.

Don't get hung up on what might have been

so, quit feeling sorry for the past and start thinking about having the very best RIGHT NOW and FUTURE you can!

[stamour1 22]

Ok so here goes- I am stuck at 205. 5 Magical short pounds from "Onderland" Why I am stuck here at 205? I will tell you why, because I have been eating slider foods. Mainly Fritos and Junaitas chips sometimes popcorn and close your eyes....even chocolate. So pissed it doesent make me sick like everyone else. Just my luck, it goes down like normal. Usually at bed time. Its comfort food (not making excuses just keeping it real) I am not sure why I am sabotaging myself. I am sure its physiological, although I am not a physiologist. Why I am afraid of going down into the next chapter, am I afraid of success? of the ok, I have done this now what? I have done this and reached my goal but it wasn't the cure all of everything? Am I loosing all this weight for a reaction from others I am afraid I am not going to get. or I will get and not know how to handle it? I haven't had my hair done, or tanned. I think another way of hiding. I think what the problem is that Its been 10 years since I was thin. And at that time I was pretty and young. Now 10 years later, I am afraid to see what I will look like after all this weight is gone, and I get my hair done, and their is nothing more physically that I can do to transform myself and their staring at me in the mirror will be a wrinkled up skinny lady and that's all I can do. PS Tonite I did not eat chocolate...lol I have been very honest so please be nice....

i think it good that u see u have a problem with eating it is weird we can wait to get the surgery and then we people start to notice us we feel uncomfortable someone told me when u have this surgery it wont fix all your problems u have to work on them and i think that all u have to do is start working on u and u can do it good luck

[TBodmer71 245]

Find a good deterrent. A few years ago I quit smoking. I needed something to occupy my mind (and hands) every time I wanted a butt. Believe it or not peeling the wallpaper in my kitchen did the trick. If you can find something else to do, typically a craving will go away in 20 minutes. I can't recommend wallpaper therapy to everybody but find a good deterrent that will work for you.

Here are some examples:

Get up and walk around

Try your skills at Sudoku

Keep a puzzle on your dining room table (every time you have a craving, you must place 10 puzzle pieces)

Look at before and after photos online

Start writing a journal during the time of day your cravings are at there peak

Call a friend

Play games on the computer ( I promise that candy crush saga has no calories)

Last but not least.......Peel wall-paper. If the cravings get real bad, a hammer through the walls may create more work than you'd like but may occupy more of your time. Before you know it, you'll be skinny and your house could be remodeled.

Good Luck, and hide the treats and the hammers.

[jacee 183]

WOW! I logged on tonight to reluctantly look at the responses to my post , and all I can say is my eyes are watering a little because I never expected so much positive feedback :wub: . I am inspired. Thank you. I knew if I put it out there I would hold myself accountable, and I had to wonder if so many of us didn't struggle with the same thoughts And tonite @TBodner1971 I shall being "peeling wallpaper" I even have a hair appointment on Thursday, I haven't had seen my hairstylist in minus 60 pounds, guess I will see the new me. Thanks everyone!