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I am far too self conscious to have fun, and I used to LOVE sex, all/any of the time. 'Even loved my body and belonged to a nudist colony. I am pre-op but you gals have definitely given me ANOTHER kind of hope! Having lost over 30 pounds waiting for a date, maybe it is time to test the waters and see how it goes until the big day. I miss the playfulness.

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This may sound crazy.....lol BUT, my female parts are so fat right now (surgery due in 10 days). Will the loose skin hang down off my "coochie" or will it not be obvious after surgery???

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I've not had sex in a long while. But since having my surgery I have noticed the pubis is smaller and thankfully not hanging.

I am hoping to find that special someone to engage with but until then I'll keep working out.

My other friends have said sex is better.

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I think it might be harder for women who have been heavy all their adult life. I am 46 and although I have been extremely overweight for the past eight years, varying degrees of obese and heavy for the past 10, I had many years where I didn't have a weight problem at all. I know that I am a lot older than the last time I was thin and things will never be as firm as they once were, lol but I think I might be able to have a more realistic idea of what to expect. I am not trying to be critical; I understand. If someone has always been overweight and then starts wearing a size 8, she isn't going to recognize herself in that body type. It's completely understandable that it will take adjustment.

When I finally was able to get my teeth fixed, as much as it's been a blessing, I still have to remind myself it's okay to smile. For so many years I wouldn't smile widely or let my teeth show because of missing teeth. I'm thrilled to have a nice smile but 8 months later I am still getting used to it.

Yeah I had surgery to be healthy. ..I knew I'd need to see a therapist eventually but I didn't realize this soon. Everything I read says if you are pear shaped you will remain pear shaped. Like your proportions dont change but your size does. I assumed my body would change but I didnt assume id lose all my curves first that's all.

I think fat hides our actual body shape I'm still not sure what shape I am :blink: and i have 43 pounds to go

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For me, it's improved greatly. We can do things now that were physically impossible before ... And he can hit spots he couldn't hit before.

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I had sex day 4 after surgery with my a Hubby. Sex was better than before. Even though it has always been good.

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When I actually get some, I'll let you know :-) but from what I'm reading here, I'm in for a good time lol

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