Hi out there - I am pre-surgery and I'm wondering if anyone made the decision to not share the news of their surgery with the exception of immediate family and 1 WLS friend?

Hello,

I decided not to tell my family that I am having wls. Only my husband and my kids know

I know I would prefer not to let everyone know as there is social gossip in many of my current circles. But my close relatives, who I do know tend to say things accidentally to anyone, will force me to be open about this. I am not worried at all about the social stigma. I think people are generally progressive in their thinking around me and are distracted with their own stuff.....I hope. But I would rather keep this all to myself so I can stay focused on my new life and my feelings and not external influences. I do want the influences of this helpful website of course. So, Yes, I will share "If Asked" specifically about "How I am getting the weight off."

I told only 3 people. Would have only told 1, but it would have been hard to explain to my parents why I suddenly disappeared for a week and when I returned, wasn't able to eat as much as my dad (and he eats like a bird - literally, he sits on a perch and pecks on the plate).

Only told my Husband and one good friend, after 4months post op, I told one more close friend....Still happy that I did not tell anyone else...

I told no one except my family dr & my neurosurgeon ( I see each once month)...I didn't want anyone to know or to worry. I initially told everyone I was going to have it when I started the year long process, but a week before surgery...I told everybody I backed out of it. People can be intentionally and unintentionally mean...and I have enough to deal with...everybody is different about it....do what is best for you and your situation.

Thanks to all of you for your replys. I would love to say that I have a wonderful, accepting family - but, this isn't the case. Some of my friends have expressed their negative views of wls in the past - don't need to hear that. I know my body and my needs and will be the one who has to live with my decision. Kisses to you all.

I told my immediate family and my best friends. No one else needs to know.