It is the first step to acknowledge what you are doing and you are. Next step is to replace your bad behaviors with good behaviors. Do what ever your boyfriend wants to do, I have to do that with my fiance so I do not get lazy. I feel better after. Before, I prefer laziness. Make a goal to get your head in the game. Don't avoid life. See what is out there for you! Remember," comfort is a want not a need." Make a food plan ahead of time each day also. And have it pre bought and set on a schedule to get back on track. Good luck to you, we all support you.