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That's what makes me crazy about our country. We're always sticking our nose & our money into helping other countries instead of taking care of our own. I totally understand Anna not being able to just go see a doc or a psych or to get meds. How does one do that when there's no insurance? My psych eval cost 495 for this upcoming surgery. My portion was 25. Without insurance' date=' I would have NEVER been able to pay that. We need to help our own. Period. I don't want anything bad to happen to our Anna. Is there some mental health dept through your own county you can go to for free help? If you're not working, surely you must qualify for some assistance program which could help you pay for your meds? I don't know...just tossing it out there.

As others have said "pretty girl!" That's actually an understatement! You're just gorgeous! Please, please, make some phone calls to your county's health services department. Maybe you can find some help there with no or very little monetary responsibility. (((Hugs)))

Oh & thank you for your response to my post Anna. Life moves on no matter what. I still have set backs on special days like on my Mom's birthday or Christmas & I really hate Mother's Day ever since but I have to keep marching forward! Just like you, sweetie! [/quote']

Wow 495 it's crazy how much each visit is. Yea I have to check it out and make phone calls. It's crazy. I graduated from college 3 years ago and still no job. So it dosnt matter if you have a degree it's still tough.

Awww thank you so much.

And I can't imagine, that's so tough when losing a love one. Especially when holidays come. You Just have to remember that she's not suffering and she's with god and she's watching over you and her love ones. And your right just have to take it day by day.

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It's in reading posts like this when I wish the U.S. would take a page out of Canada's health care book. You really get the short end of the stick. :( I know it's hard but you can only get better if you keep looking for answers. Hugs.

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It's in reading posts like this when I wish the U.S. would take a page out of Canada's health care book. You really get the short end of the stick. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':(' /> I know it's hard but you can only get better if you keep looking for answers. Hugs.

Yes that's what I have to do keep looking for answers and don't give up thank you brand newbie :)

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Try different dr's, different meds, and go volunteer (like at an animal shelter, hospital, nursing home) til the job situation improves...my dog saved me from depression (along with dr, finding a med, moving more)....do you have an animal? If not, consider adopting a pet. Plus, you know you gotta throw the junk food away...I know it is easier said than done, but you can do it!!

Best of luck to you!! Wish you the best!

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Try different dr's' date=' different meds, and go volunteer (like at an animal shelter, hospital, nursing home) til the job situation improves...my dog saved me from depression (along with dr, finding a med, moving more)....do you have an animal? If not, consider adopting a pet. Plus, you know you gotta throw the junk food away...I know it is easier said than done, but you can do it!!

Best of luck to you!! Wish you the best![/quote']

Yes I have a dog. And I always said I would go volunteer but never went to. Yes junk food is killing me here. Thank u so much for the info:)

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My husband has severe depression. Starting in 2005 he was hospitalized several times for it. They tried so many meds and the werent working or working fast enough. He had ECT sessions which really helped. this is a life saving treatment and not as scary as you may think. Aftet the Ect, he was no longer suicidal. Trough trial and error they found the right meds, but its a combination of 3 meds that work together. He is now on disability because he relapses and can't consistantly work, but tghe meds keep him doing well in general. His is a severe case, but just shows you not to give up hope. Thereare so many meds and a good pyschiatrist knows how to combine them. Dont lose hope. Call your dr and ask about free mental health services in your area. I know the depression makes it hard to do anything. Maybe ask a friend or relative to help with the calls and research. Reach out to your support network because you need that help right now.

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Just want to say that my daughter suffers from depression/anxiety and meds made her feel worse. She switched to all organic. All the way down to her tooth paste, Shampoo, deodorant etc and she is about 90% better than she was. This may not work for everyone but it is worth a try. All the pesticides and hormones effect everyone differently. There was a noticeable difference in 2 weeks.

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Laura-ven did you eventually found the right pill that work for you? How do u do it? You take meds and motivated and losing weight

I'm only 2 weeks post op and I also battle with anxiety. I stayed on my meds the whole time before and after surgery. Sometimes afraid to even leave my house but I just have to set a goal for myself everyday and accomplish it no matter what. You can do this, a lot of it is a mental game with yourself and you just have to make yourself win the battle!!

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And it sucks because its alot of money to go to the doctors and buying meds when you have no insurance. That's why I stopped going and taken meds.

Do you qualify for state aid? Like for insurance? Don't be embarrassed to receive state help. I'm in Ny, and I know they could help you with everything like medical, food, housing, and even jobs! Do some research for your state, or let me know what state your in and I'll look it up and post some links.

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My husband has severe depression. Starting in 2005 he was hospitalized several times for it. They tried so many meds and the werent working or working fast enough. He had ECT sessions which really helped. this is a life saving treatment and not as scary as you may think. Aftet the Ect' date=' he was no longer suicidal. Trough trial and error they found the right meds, but its a combination of 3 meds that work together. He is now on disability because he relapses and can't consistantly work, but tghe meds keep him doing well in general. His is a severe case, but just shows you not to give up hope. Thereare so many meds and a good pyschiatrist knows how to combine them. Dont lose hope. Call your dr and ask about free mental health services in your area. I know the depression makes it hard to do anything. Maybe ask a friend or relative to help with the calls and research. Reach out to your support network because you need that help right now.[/quote']

Awww I'm so glad to hear that your husband is doing much better. It is a very scary situation. ECT your the second person who told me about that. I deff have to check that out soon. Thank you for the info:)

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Just want to say that my daughter suffers from depression/anxiety and meds made her feel worse. She switched to all organic. All the way down to her tooth paste' date=' Shampoo, deodorant etc and she is about 90% better than she was. This may not work for everyone but it is worth a try. All the pesticides and hormones effect everyone differently. There was a noticeable difference in 2 weeks.[/quote']

Wow really? That is crazy that the things like that makes us this way. I have to try that out. Thank you. And so happy your daughter is doing better:)

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I'm only 2 weeks post op and I also battle with anxiety. I stayed on my meds the whole time before and after surgery. Sometimes afraid to even leave my house but I just have to set a goal for myself everyday and accomplish it no matter what. You can do this' date=' a lot of it is a mental game with yourself and you just have to make yourself win the battle!!

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Congrats two weeks good for you:) it gets better trust me. And yes it sure is a mental game, I have to try and beat it. Good luck with you and glad that your doing better and fighting this :)

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Do you qualify for state aid? Like for insurance? Don't be embarrassed to receive state help. I'm in Ny' date=' and I know they could help you with everything like medical, food, housing, and even jobs! Do some research for your state, or let me know what state your in and I'll look it up and post some links.[/quote']

I don't know if I qualify. i never checked that out. I live in NJ I have to check it out thank u for the info:)

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I don't know if I qualify. i never checked that out. I live in NJ I have to check it out thank u for the info:)

No problem! I'm currently on Medicaid until my husbands insurance for work kicks in. I'm so lucky because my surgery and all of the pre op testing has been 100% covered.

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No problem! I'm currently on Medicaid until my husbands insurance for work kicks in. I'm so lucky because my surgery and all of the pre op testing has been 100% covered.

That's good. Mine was too. I was under my moms until I'm 26 so I did it before I knew I didn't have insurance anymore. So thank god I made it in time. Because I wouldn't have done the surgery. It's too much money if you don't have insurance.

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