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Laura-ven did you eventually found the right pill that work for you? How do u do it? You take meds and motivated and losing weight

I have in the past felt like a human guinea pig!

I've been on so many! I suffer from major depression. My life is good I have everything I could want but that doesn't stop my depression.

It's funny because after everything I've been in all these years I ended up just going back to Prozac.

It was the only one that kinda worked and the side affects where livable compared to some of the really bad ones I had with others.

I answered your post because I have a bad habit of stopping my meds (I don't know why)

But things seem to be going good and I slowly start forgetting and then quit. Well thus last year I really worked on keeping them up. And have been doing good. I had surgery in November and have been losing OK... 64 pounds with 36 To go.

I started about a month or so ago skipping my pills forgetting them then just stopping.

I have slowly so slowly that I didn't really notice been slipping back into a state of depression :(

I came clean just today with my husband about the meds so here I go again starting them back up. It's what I have to do. And yes I have up until recently been "happy" and motivated with my loss.

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I have in the past felt like a human guinea pig!

I've been on so many! I suffer from major depression. My life is good I have everything I could want but that doesn't stop my depression.

It's funny because after everything I've been in all these years I ended up just going back to Prozac.

It was the only one that kinda worked and the side affects where livable compared to some of the really bad ones I had with others.

I answered your post because I have a bad habit of stopping my meds (I don't know why)

But things seem to be going good and I slowly start forgetting and then quit. Well thus last year I really worked on keeping them up. And have been doing good. I had surgery in November and have been losing OK... 64 pounds with 36 To go.

I started about a month or so ago skipping my pills forgetting them then just stopping.

I have slowly so slowly that I didn't really notice been slipping back into a state of depression <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':(' />

I came clean just today with my husband about the meds so here I go again starting them back up. It's what I have to do. And yes I have up until recently been "happy" and motivated with my loss.

The pills makes it worse if u stop it and go back. That's what happened to me when I did that. And I appreciate u message my post. Because I needed to talk to someone who related to me with that. I'm just scared to go back on the meds it's money and makes it worse. I tried everyone that's out there. Lexapro was the one worked a little. But that makes me gain weight. So either way I never win lol. And I wish u luck with you meds. Because it sucks being this way. I happy your doin good and yes make sure you take them everyday at same time because its important. But thank you again for your words. I just gonna try and see what my dr says. We shall see????

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Hi Annag,

I don't know if this would be the same depression or if generally depression is depression but I lost my Mom to Bone Marrow Cancer. We were best friends. It had been only she & I since I was 8 y/o because that's when my Dad died. I moved to CA & she moved out with me. Then after 10 years, we moved back to MI (I grabbed a husband along the way ~ :D ). My husband & I had a house built & she moved in with us..so we had been together for most of my life. She passed away when I was 42 & it was the darkest time of my life. My husband & kids lost me for the year I was my Mom's caregiver & then they lost me for yet another year as I went thru my depression.

Thankfully my OB/GYN picked up on it & he put me on (I believe) Zoloft (?) & strongly encouraged me to seek counseling, as well as joining a gym. He wanted proof of me joining a gym & wanted the name of my counselor! I never did provide proof of joining a gym but I did join Curves & I did go see someone he recommended & within months, I came back to my old self. The combination of all 3 treatments, really helped. I don't know if the same would work for you but what do you have to lose? You're wasting precious days on earth away feeling this way. My heart bleeds for you Each day is a gift, ask any cancer patient! Please do something good for yourself & follow the suggestions you're getting here. Go seek another doctor or counselor, & who knows, maybe the very next one you seek out will be the perfect match to heal you! God bless!

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Sure. Click on quote underneath the persons post that you want to show n yours. Good luck. I don't personally deal with these issues but my Mom has all of her life and therefore I have seen the cycle you speak of. Going off the med's usually leads down a dark road for someone with depression. Please try another psychiatrist and soon.

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The pills makes it worse if u stop it and go back. That's what happened to me when I did that. And I appreciate u message my post. Because I needed to talk to someone who related to me with that. I'm just scared to go back on the meds it's money and makes it worse. I tried everyone that's out there. Lexapro was the one worked a little. But that makes me gain weight. So either way I never win lol. And I wish u luck with you meds. Because it sucks being this way. I happy your doin good and yes make sure you take them everyday at same time because its important. But thank you again for your words. I just gonna try and see what my dr says. We shall seedde0a

Listen I know the thought of weight gain is scary!

Prozac can do the same! But it's a balancing act.

Because you are depressed now you are eating things you shouldn't trust me the weight gain is worse with the untreated depression than it is with the medicines!

I eat to stuff the feelings. I eat to comfort myself.

I eat to the point of pain to ease the pain.

I guess what I'm saying is I know what you are going through.

Please seek help again.

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Hi Annag' date='

I don't know if this would be the same depression or if generally depression is depression but I lost my Mom to Bone Marrow Cancer. We were best friends. It had been only she & I since I was 8 y/o because that's when my Dad died. I moved to CA & she moved out with me. Then after 10 years, we moved back to MI (I grabbed a husband along the way ~ <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':D' /> ). My husband & I had a house built & she moved in with us..so we had been together for most of my life. She passed away when I was 42 & it was the darkest time of my life. My husband & kids lost me for the year I was my Mom's caregiver & then they lost me for yet another year as I went thru my depression.

Thankfully my OB/GYN picked up on it & he put me on (I believe) Zoloft (?) & strongly encouraged me to seek counseling, as well as joining a gym. He wanted proof of me joining a gym & wanted the name of my counselor! I never did provide proof of joining a gym but I did join Curves & I did go see someone he recommended & within months, I came back to my old self. The combination of all 3 treatments, really helped. I don't know if the same would work for you but what do you have to lose? You're wasting precious days on earth away feeling this way. My heart bleeds for you Each day is a gift, ask any cancer patient! Please do something good for yourself & follow the suggestions you're getting here. Go seek another doctor or counselor, & who knows, maybe the very next one you seek out will be the perfect match to heal you! God bless! [/quote']

Hey pixie dust,

I'm so sorry about your mom and dad. I can't imagine what u went through. You are right each day is a gift and people have it way worse and I need to try and go get help and keep trying. Thank you for telling me your story and so happy that you are better. May god bless you and your family. And yes your right going counseling and to the gym they say that helps. I just have to get that motivation going and start doing that. ????

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Guess I was posting how while u were posting. Sorry

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Sure. Click on quote underneath the persons post that you want to show n yours. Good luck. I don't personally deal with these issues but my Mom has all of her life and therefore I have seen the cycle you speak of. Going off the med's usually leads down a dark road for someone with depression. Please try another psychiatrist and soon.

Thank you Hun for the help with that????

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Listen I know the thought of weight gain is scary!

Prozac can do the same! But it's a balancing act.

Because you are depressed now you are eating things you shouldn't trust me the weight gain is worse with the untreated depression than it is with the medicines!

I eat to stuff the feelings. I eat to comfort myself.

I eat to the point of pain to ease the pain.

I guess what I'm saying is I know what you are going through.

Please seek help again.

Your right I eat bad stuff because depressed I realized that now. Yes I will try and seek help soon. Thank you very much.

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Laura-ven, wow you have inspired me with your honesty, I always read your posts and your advice because I feel you respond truthful and you always encourage people and just by how you are I respect your responses immencely. You dont sound depressed to me whatever it is your going through I hope you work it out , and its all good.

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Listen I know the thought of weight gain is scary!

Prozac can do the same! But it's a balancing act.

Because you are depressed now you are eating things you shouldn't trust me the weight gain is worse with the untreated depression than it is with the medicines!

I eat to stuff the feelings. I eat to comfort myself.

I eat to the point of pain to ease the pain.

I guess what I'm saying is I know what you are going through.

Please seek help again.

I am so sorry you actually feel like this , I have thought of you of a very strong woman and I think you are. I hope you get past this very soon. No one deserves to feel like that.

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Your right I eat bad stuff because depressed I realized that now. Yes I will try and seek help soon. Thank you very much.

And it sucks because its alot of money to go to the doctors and buying meds when you have no insurance. That's why I stopped going and taken meds.

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Laura-ven, wow you have inspired me with your honesty, I always read your posts and your advice because I feel you respond truthful and you always encourage people and just by how you are I respect your responses immencely. You dont sound depressed to me whatever it is your going through I hope you work it out , and its all good.

I agree with you about @laura-ven, when I an feeling like shi*, she will say something funny and I just LMAO. It goes the same when she is telling someone the truth, and they then talk BS to her I want to crawl through my laptop and whip their A**. When you talk with @laura-ven it's like being on Oprah's couch, I told her before she should charge :D

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I am so sorry you actually feel like this ' date=' I have thought of you of a very strong woman and I think you are. I hope you get past this very soon. No one deserves to feel like that.[/quote']

I am a strong and often times an opinionated woman

( as I'm sure you know:)) but its because I am strong and honest with myself and others that I can continue to overcome this. We all have bumps in the road and I've had many, but I have to keep going. I'm stubborn that way :P

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I am a strong and often times an opinionated woman

( as I'm sure you know:)) but its because I am string and honest with myself and others that I can continue to overcome this. We all have bumps in the road and I've had many but I have to keep going. I'm stubborn that way <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':P' />

That's what I need a honest strong opinion person. Because that's how you help people out. Everything you have said to me has helped me out and I appreciate it very much. And I'm glad I join this because I thought I was the only person going through this. It's good to know others who are out there taken their time to help.

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