My little boy and I were having such a pleasant shopping experience last night. When we got to our second mall, I pulled into a parking spot and noticed a young mother and her baby daughter, who was probably about a year or so old, getting into the car directly in front of us. I pointed out the pretty little girl bundled in pink to my son who loves babies.

As I got out of the car to get my son out of his car seat in back, I hear this woman scream "Maybe now you'll shut your f===ing mouth!" to that precious baby girl. I jumped back to look at her with the most despicable look I could give her while shaking my head, but she shot out of there before I could say something. I'm not sure what I'd have said, but it just breaks my heart to think what that baby must live with. I can't begin to imagine talking to one of my children like that. I'm still crushed by it.

I quickly realized my son hadn't heard what she said, and I focused on making his night even more fun, but that sweet baby and her nasty mouth, poor excuse of a mother still haunts me.

As a 7th grade teacher, and a person who loves kids, it breaks my heart to know that not every child is adored and treated like someone's precious little prince or princess. Every little one is so precious and important.

Oh my gosh...how sad...for that woman not to appreciate the precious gift that she has...I weep for the child. Ok I have my moments but to yell abuse at a child is unforgiveable...they grow up with the scars for the rest of their lives... what kind of parents will they be if that is how they get treated when young.

Speaking of scummy people I just had to have someone removed from the property tonight. I work as security at an apartment complex.

The first time I had to deal with this dude was when he was completely smashed and stumbling around the complex at 4 in the morning after getting into a fight with someone who gave him a ride over. He promised to pay for the ride with drugs, and when he didn't have any the guy attacked him. Had to call the cops to have him removed. The resident he visits was told he was not allowed to return.

Tonight, after getting complaints two days ago about this guy, he's being so loud in the apartment he visits that I go bang on the door. He won't answer so I call the cops again. They make him leave, and he gives me this evil look.

The cop told me he had a long arrest record and one of them was for resisting arrest. So that means he can be violent. The resident lets him stay with her kids overnight while she works. He stays up all night being loud and getting high or drunk. He also invites over other lowlifes. It makes me worry about the kids.

Of course I also worry for myself. He's committed violent acts in the past and I'm worried he or someone else I have removed will come back and attack me while I patrol, weaponless and alone, in the dark. I really need a new job. :faint:

I would report the woman he stays with to family services, if I were you. There is very little chance that she doesn't know what he is doing. She is putting her children at risk by letting him stay there. They will hopefully force her to stop seeing him.

Some peole should just NOT breed, period! I'd almost BET that the verbally abusive parents were verbally abused (or worse)themselves. I'm a 110% believer that you are a product of your envoirnment, but break the cycle people! My son is 3 1/2 and pushes my buttons on a regular basis (and he's quite good at I may add), but that doesn't give me the right to cuss him out as if he were a sailor on shore leave!

Speaking of scummy people I just had to have someone removed from the property tonight. I work as security at an apartment complex.

The first time I had to deal with this dude was when he was completely smashed and stumbling around the complex at 4 in the morning after getting into a fight with someone who gave him a ride over. He promised to pay for the ride with drugs, and when he didn't have any the guy attacked him. Had to call the cops to have him removed. The resident he visits was told he was not allowed to return.

Tonight, after getting complaints two days ago about this guy, he's being so loud in the apartment he visits that I go bang on the door. He won't answer so I call the cops again. They make him leave, and he gives me this evil look.

The cop told me he had a long arrest record and one of them was for resisting arrest. So that means he can be violent. The resident lets him stay with her kids overnight while she works. He stays up all night being loud and getting high or drunk. He also invites over other lowlifes. It makes me worry about the kids.

Of course I also worry for myself. He's committed violent acts in the past and I'm worried he or someone else I have removed will come back and attack me while I patrol, weaponless and alone, in the dark. I really need a new job. :faint:

Sounds to me like Mommy isn't any better than he is!

I had read this somewhere when my first child was still a baby - it certainly helps.

Sometimes children will cry, whine or whatever. They will get on your last nerve. If it gets to the point you simply cannot handle it any longer, go put the child in his/her crib, then take a few minutes to calm down. Go to the other end of the house so you don't hear the crying. Take a few deep breaths. Get a drink of Water. Whatever helps you calm down. Then calmly go back and get the child, and try again.

This may seem cruel to some people to shut the child in his/her room for five minutes, but it's sure better than beating or screaming at the child.

I had read this somewhere when my first child was still a baby - it certainly helps.

Sometimes children will cry, whine or whatever. They will get on your last nerve. If it gets to the point you simply cannot handle it any longer, go put the child in his/her crib, then take a few minutes to calm down. Go to the other end of the house so you don't hear the crying. Take a few deep breaths. Get a drink of Water. Whatever helps you calm down. Then calmly go back and get the child, and try again.

This may seem cruel to some people to shut the child in his/her room for five minutes, but it's sure better than beating or screaming at the child.

That's what I thought was the right thing to do.....I think that may take some control and obviously these morons cussing out their babies or toddlers are laking such.....

My daughter is 19 mths old and Miss Independent. She has an attitude on her like no tomorrow. She is a very good kid, but she can get mouthy. I would NEVER holler at her or cuss her out. There have been times when I have wanted to run away, but I will get her busy coloring and I will walk out of the room take a few deep breaths and try to change the situation.

If I were to see someone abusing a kid regardless of their size and mine, there is no doubt I would jump in and kick some major butt. I could not sit along the sidelines and watch that.

I won't let my daughter go to my sister's house because she is always screaming at her kid. I tell her constantly that is abuse and she better watch it or I will report her. She has gotten better, but my daughter is not used to people screaming, that would make her a nervous wreck. There are other ways of disciplining.

I know some may think I am young and naive in my parenting, but I want my daughter to feel safe around me and my husband. There just isn't any cause for screaming in a household.

Let's see....

That little girl will most likely...

-get some sort of eating disorder

-be suicidal

-if she's lucky, spend thousands of dollars of her own money for therapy that might help

-have no boundaries

-pick a career that is the path of least resistance

-let people do pretty much what they want sexually because she doesn't know that she can say no

-be on anxiety medication at some point in her life

-visit her parents house 30 miles away once every couple of years

-be surprised at her anger and sadness even 30 or 40 years later

-be damn grateful if she ever pulls he life out of the garbage and makes something good of it

That woman is just like my mother.

All of the discussion here reminds me of an incident I witnessed several years ago. I was driving through the parking lot of a shopping mall and saw a young woman put a small 3yr old little girl into the back seat of a car as she was screaming at her. She then got into the back seat with her and I watched her beat her with the heel part of a high heeled shoe. (Someone else was driving evidently). I tried to get the license plate number so I could report it, but they drove away too fast. The image haunts me til this day!

That makes me sick to my stomach.