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So I was sleeved on 3/19. From the time I started my pre op diet to now I'm down 26lbs and it is noticeable. My family and very close friends know I had the surgery but my co-workers don't know. They are SO nosey and it's uncomfortable. I'm not ashamed of my surgery but I am a private person; especially in the workplace. How have you handled these nosey folks? I want to tell them to mind their *#%**!!!! business but I need my job!! Lol! ;)

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I haven't been sleeved yet but I've only told my BFF who lives out of state & another friend out of state & one of my neighbors (the one who talks to no one), in case I need help with the kids, & of course my husband knows. That's IT tho! I will say (in case others find out I'm in the hospital) that I'm having hernia surgery & other than that, if anyone says anything about me losing weight, I'm just going to say I'm on a medically supervised diet. That's it. End of conversation. Done. Finished. (haha!!) Good luck to you!

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that's what I told people at work.. Diet and exercise..

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that's a tough one. I almost didn't let my co-workers know, but on the friday before my monday surgery, I decided I would tell them that I was making a drastic decision for my health and for me ...... I worried about the web of lies I would find myself telling or eluding when the nosey co-workers started asking questions. I figured either way they will talk, and surprisingly they have been extremely supportive and ask lots of questions because others are interested in this option for weight loss. tough call on how to handle your privacy as they are going to see you 'magically' transform right before their very eyes . You can just tell them you've decided to make a lifestyle change and better your health......and leave it at that! LOL good luck -)

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Ugh!! I'm in the same situation my close friends & family no.. But I tell my co workers diet & excerise also...& I feel the same way u feel I want to curse them out but I need my job lol I'm 30lbs down now I was sleeved on 2/4 I should've lost more by now but i stay hungry... As long as I don't gain I'm good....

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I love the medically supervised/ diet & exercise explanation!! Think I'll go with that!! *clapping like we're on Family Feud* Good answers!! Good answers!! Thank you all!

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I also didn't tell anyone other than my boss, my mom and my husband. I told everyone at work I was having a "procedure" done and then would just change the subject every time one of the nosy ones would ask, "for what?" But the day before my surgery I decided to let people know, but started with, "This is an extremely personal decision that I've spent a long time researching so I am well aware of the risks involved" because I also didn't want to get stuck in a web of lies. Also, you tend to drop weight at a much faster rate than you can with just diet and exercise and I didn't want others to feel like failures when they couldn't achieve the same results.

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At first I didn't tell anyone but my boss also. When I told her she volunteered that she had the gastric bypass a few years ago. I had only told a few people before surgery but when I returned to work I pretty much told whoever asked because I didn't want to hide in a corner at lunch time. All of my co workers were very supportive and still is. Having that support at work keeps me on my toes. They make sure I don't fall back and eat those sweet and sugary doughnuts!!! Glad they know, good luck!!

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that's what I told people at work.. Diet and exercise..

Same here. Actually a few of my coworkers know, and my family. I am in a RT program, and none of them know, but since I have lost 58 lbs since surgery, it's obvious. I told them I was limiting carbs and exercising. Maybe they suspect. I just don't think its anyone's business and I am choosy who I share it with.

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My coworkers know since its a small department of nurses. A casual friend remarked today on the weight loss and asked, " I'm wrestling the beast" i told her and laughed. Then asked about her.

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Remember that you are the same person before and after surgery, so the co workers should accept you ether way. so if you want to keep it privet then let them mind the own business

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I love the medically supervised/ diet & exercise explanation!! Think I'll go with that!! *clapping like we're on Family Feud* Good answers!! Good answers!! Thank you all!

This is Hilarious!!

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I also didn't tell anyone other than my boss' date=' my mom and my husband. I told everyone at work I was having a "procedure" done and then would just change the subject every time one of the nosy ones would ask, "for what?" But the day before my surgery I decided to let people know, but started with, "This is an extremely personal decision that I've spent a long time researching so I am well aware of the risks involved" because I also didn't want to get stuck in a web of lies. Also, you tend to drop weight at a much faster rate than you can with just diet and exercise and I didn't want others to feel like failures when they couldn't achieve the same results.[/quote']

I agree with you. I don't do the web of lies thing either. I just have to work on my creative wording!! ;) Continued success!

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At first I didn't tell anyone but my boss also. When I told her she volunteered that she had the gastric bypass a few years ago. I had only told a few people before surgery but when I returned to work I pretty much told whoever asked because I didn't want to hide in a corner at lunch time. All of my co workers were very supportive and still is. Having that support at work keeps me on my toes. They make sure I don't fall back and eat those sweet and sugary doughnuts!!! Glad they know' date=' good luck!![/quote']

I've started eating my lunch in my car to avoid the "that's all you're eating" comments. I've already had a few "what is that?" questions about my Protein Shakes. I do think most of my co-workers would be very supportive. Continued success to you!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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