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Ok I may be crazy but I am sooo sick of all the attention I have been getting post op. I am 6 months out right now and down 68lb and I swear everyday at work someone is like omg how much are you down, you look great..... I really appreciate it but am sick of it. I guess I don't feel that great, I'm still 173 and 5'1" so I still look big in my eyes. I have never been comfortable being the center of attention any way so this is making it worse. Like I said I may be nuts but its just really starting to annoy me and unfortunately I work in a huge hospital and everyone knows me there so I get it at least 3 times a day. I guess I just want to be normal and not feel like the freak show weight loss girl. Am I the only one feeling this way??

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No, I think you hit it on the head. I am uncomfortable with attention unless I solicit it. I think that is one reason I ate and ate, and ate. To be invisible. Just take it as a compliment and you are doing wonderful in your weight loss. Allow it to be encouraging to lose more! They don't matter anyway! You do!

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Ok I may be crazy but I am sooo sick of all the attention I have been getting post op. I am 6 months out right now and down 68lb and I swear everyday at work someone is like omg how much are you down, you look great..... I really appreciate it but am sick of it. I guess I don't feel that great, I'm still 173 and 5'1" so I still look big in my eyes. I have never been comfortable being the center of attention any way so this is making it worse. Like I said I may be nuts but its just really starting to annoy me and unfortunately I work in a huge hospital and everyone knows me there so I get it at least 3 times a day. I guess I just want to be normal and not feel like the freak show weight loss girl. Am I the only one feeling this way??

Eventually, it'll stop. It's great that people are recognizing your accomplishment. It's not easy, but will get better. I too do not like attention about my weight only because people at the office have seen me yo-yo and I feel embarrassed when I gain all the weight back again

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I completely agree . I work in a nice sized office and I havent even came back from leave yet. I get texts from everyone like how much have you lost? Send me a pic! I am over it already.I never discussed my weight before and really dont wanna discuss it now! Plus I think everyone is gonna be making comparison between myself and a couple others that had the bypass...ughh.just want to blend in and be normal!!

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Im still 12 days out from my surgery. However, I have always felt like people were talking about me b/c of my weight- not being skinny, but always being fat! My advice - take it as a huge compliment! Consider where You've been and where you are now! Yay you! BTW - they're probably terribly jealous! :-)

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People at work keep commenting on how "skinny" I am now and I'm just like.... seriously? Yeah, a size 24 is reaaal skinny. @_@

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I'm the same if I head your so skinny now one more time I'm going to scream! I'm still way over weight for my height I'm a 12/14, it's better then a 20 that I was but scrubs are very forgiving! I still feel huge and have a long way to go and I find my self wanting to lie bc I just had a month long stall and was embarrassed because every time someone would say how much is it now it would be the same as it was. I feel like I'm being rude because I just kinda walk away when people start.

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I totally get what you are saying. When I did opti-fast lots of years ago the attention bothered me. Especially when it came with a lot of flirting. A friend of mine tells me your wieght was your WALL of protection. So this time as the pounds come off I smile and say thank you. I only discuss numbers with those I am close to. The rest just get my typical response ...... which is "not enough" that usually stops them in tracks lol.

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I feel the same way, which is why I didn't tell anyone I was having surgery. I want to fly under the radar, but it's impossible. I work in a hospital and interact with lots of people all over every day. I appreciate the compliments, but I wish people could just say "you look great", take a polite thanks, and move on. They all want to know the magic secret. I feel like if they knew I had WLS, they would be scrutinizing me even more. I'm looking forward to the day it's history, and they get used to looking a thin me.

Oh - and I REALLY hate it when they say "you are losing weight" as a statement of fact. That's not even a compliment, I consider it a judgement. I've started not responding to that one, lol. Maybe next time I should say something sarcastic, like 'you aren't losing weight". Just kidding, I know most people have good intentions, but it does wear me out some days!

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It has gotten annoying at work. Everyday, the same people ask "so, how much today?". The skinny minny comments I hate too. I realize that they see what I don't see in the mirror. However, I delight in my husband's giggles as he discovers something different about my body-hip bones, the hollows of my neck, or the trail down my spine. He is my biggest fan, and only his opinion matters to me.

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I feel the same way, which is why I didn't tell anyone I was having surgery. I want to fly under the radar, but it's impossible. I work in a hospital and interact with lots of people all over every day. I appreciate the compliments, but I wish people could just say "you look great", take a polite thanks, and move on. They all want to know the magic secret. I feel like if they knew I had WLS, they would be scrutinizing me even more. I'm looking forward to the day it's history, and they get used to looking a thin me.

Oh - and I REALLY hate it when they say "you are losing weight" as a statement of fact. That's not even a compliment, I consider it a judgement. I've started not responding to that one, lol. Maybe next time I should say something sarcastic, like 'you aren't losing weight". Just kidding, I know most people have good intentions, but it does wear me out some days!

I had to laugh reading your response. I feel you.....when I get the people looking for the magic bullet I tell them.....calories vs calories out. The more you eat the more you workout. I never have those same come back twice lol. And I don't feel I am giving them a wrong answer either.

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I completely understand. I know they mean well but it's uncomfortable. Every day when I walk into work this guy yells, "you're shrinking!" For everybody to hear!

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People at work keep commenting on how "skinny" I am now and I'm just like.... seriously? Yeah, a size 24 is reaaal skinny. @_@

Compared to the size 32s I was wearing, 24's are twiggy :D

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I may be crazy but I am sooo sick of all the attention I have been getting post op.

bubles089

from the replies you are getting, apparently there are people with your feelings about not liking all the attention concerning you weight loss - and thats fine, those are your thoughts

I know all those years past i would get plenty of attention - bad attention - concerning my being overweight :(

now i am down 100 lbs - GOAL

do i feel embarrassed, shy, quiet et al when people come up to me complimenting about my appearance and weight loss????

No way!!!! i feel great!! Can't get enough of those great comments :)

sooooo, anyone that receives unwanted compliments about their appearance.....

send them over to me :lol:

congrats on loosing 68 lbs - thats terrific :)

continued good luck with your weight loss

btw

you look marrrrrvelous :lol:

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It has gotten annoying at work. Everyday' date=' the same people ask "so, how much today?". The skinny minny comments I hate too. I realize that they see what I don't see in the mirror. However, I delight in my husband's giggles as he discovers something different about my body-hip bones, the hollows of my neck, or the trail down my spine. He is my biggest fan, and only his opinion matters to me.[/quote']

I had a coworker say..so did you lose any weight over the weekend? Weeelll no only during the week I lose. Lol. I agree my weight was my wall..no one paid attention to me..and I liked it that way. I imagine as I will get accustomed to being treated differently..which sad fact skinny people get more respect. But yes..for me its annoying to respond to those who want Sarahs daily weight loss report

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