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Hello, I'm VQ, I had the sleeve surgery just before Thanksgiving in November 2012. The first month was hell! It's still he'll now but I have gotten used to it. When I first realized I was fat. I started looking for ways to lose weight. I tried everything. I was a bit successful but the truth is I love to eat. I didn't care if it was killing me. Being a big guy for most of my adult life had some benefits. I didn't realize I would lose so much weight. Now I'm skinny. I really don't like it much. When people see me for the first time, I immediately look at their reaction and it's wierd. I realized that I have lost the weight but my self confidence as well. I really want to eat. I also want the weight loss To stop.

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I guess my first questions would be why do you think your to skinny now and what benefits of being a big guy did you lose?

I was sleeved around the same time by the way!

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I was sleeved in the same time frame. I'd be interested in knowing where you started and where you are now. You can manage your weight, just like you managed your weight loss. Are you seeing a nutritionist? Typically they have a plan for your maintenance if you are close to your goal weight.

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Why not try to substitute being overweight with bulking up? As much as I'd rather not say it, if you want to sabotage around your sleeve, you *can* do it. Personally, though, I'd rather go for putting on muscle as opposed to fat.

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You need a nutritionist and maybe a therapist to kinda figure things out with you. There should be so many more open doors for you now that you are not a "big guy" anymore. I don't know much of your life but it sounds like you are a little depressed. Therapy and maybe some meds can help that. Good Luck--feel better soon.

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why do you feel that you being skinny now is a bad thing? most of us here strive to be "skinny". I havent been heavy all my life.. started after having kids..and I too didnt care because I loved food and I loved eating it too. but being big.. people stare.. or refer to you as the big girl. and then the kids that say why are you so fat? I dont see how that can be a good thing.. what advantages of being big could there possibly be? I couldnt name one other that not being cold cuz I was well insulated. are you married or dating or what? Have a support system? Im sorry you feel the way that you do.. but first step in the right direction is to come here and get some answers.. I would like to understand why you feel like you do. you prolly look amazing now.

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Definitely start pumping Iron and downing the Protein shakes!

You can now build muscle opposed to useless fat.

It's a win/win

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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