How do i be thin?

[Dreamingofhealth 223]

How do I be thin? I don't know. I know the WLS will help my body to lose the weight. But how do I make my personality thin? You've heard the quote' date=' "God made me fat because he knew a skinny body couldn't hold all this personality"? That's me. I have a loud, crazy, say anything, flirtatious personality. And nobody is threatened by it because I'm a fat girl. I'm scared females won't like me when I'm skinny. I'm scared they will think of me as "The Skinny B!+€#. I'm scared men will take me seriously when I make an off color remark and they'll take it as flirting. I'm scared my fat mouth will write a check my skinny ass can't cash. Can anyone identify with this?[/quote']

I am still pre-sleeve, and I too have thought about this as well. Sometimes I feel like I make jokes so people won't 'notice' my largeness....

But honestly I hope I don't change too much. I think being a bigger person has taught me to be more sensitive, compassionate and overall a more thoughtful person. Because I have lived like this practically my whole life I am going to be the complete package. My outsides are going to match my insides.

I think at the end of the day you are who you are. It's a natural evolution for us to change and grow and you are going to change when you become a thinner person, it's the way it is. Just make sure you take a step back so you don't lose the qualities you love about yourself!

Good luck! I can't wait to join you on the losers bench!

Sheena :-)

[Mastiff_mama 171]

Woman in me....please write a blog and let me know the addy ....you're too funny! I'd love to read a post open blog and your big mouth antics!

[woman in me 307]

Woman in me....please write a blog and let me know the addy ....you're too funny! I'd love to read a post open blog and your big mouth antics!

I may just do that.

[Nicole 2013 44]

That's sad' date=' however, I so can relate. My super skinny best friend is starting to date a new guy ...she and I were high school buddies and we turn 50 this year. She's always been skinny and I've always been fat. Neither of us has dated in a few years and I am so happy for her yet a little jealous and worried I am losing my hanging buddy! I was looking forward to going out with her and getting some attention! She gets it all now![/quote']

Have you wondered if that one guy that always seen you as a friend will see you in a different way and you in the past had wished for more but he just wasnt so into you in that way... What will it be like...

[lessofmeismore 1,405]

And fat people don't have a monopoly on cheeky flirting either everyone does it :ph34r:

Hehe

Love it

[want2clessofme 26]

I love your sense of humor! Who could NOT like you?

[woman in me 307]

I love your sense of humor! Who could NOT like you?

Awe thanks! That was sweet.

[woman in me 307]

I've seen a few other posts about this so I don't feel so all alone now.

[ashelaine 383]

Oh yes ma'am!!! I am so with you! I've always been the funny fat girl. Fat Amy anyone? It still shocks me. So far- I'm still my same loud overly zealous self. Down 53lbs. My good friend and I are very very similar- but she is one of those naturally skinny peeps- who at 30 and after having 2 kids is getting laser Lipo to get rid if her 'belly fat'. I literally laughed out loud when she told me. I'm a flirt, too. Always have been. I'm worried about that more anything. I'm harmless. My boyfriend likes to tell me that I have the female Napoleon syndrome . I'm 4'11.

Seriously though- write a blog and I will follow you!

[Nicole 2013 44]

I would so follow as well

[woman in me 307]

wow! I am so flattered. I really am thinking about writing a blog now. I will reply here if I decide I can squeeze it into my schedule. I'm already working 2 jobs and have a son with special needs so I stay pretty busy.

[iggychic 1,405]

wow! I am so flattered. I really am thinking about writing a blog now. I will reply here if I decide I can squeeze it into my schedule. I'm already working 2 jobs and have a son with special needs so I stay pretty busy.

You just touched on a subject I was going to bring up about "normal" or "skinny" or whatever we aren't and may get a chance to become.

My son has been very ill since birth. He has a rare blood disorder which has caused developmental delays due to his frequent and prolonged illnesses. He has a feeding disorder and prior to the last year I had to isolate him from other children (because they're all germ factories LOL) so he did so much better with adults than children. But now, as he gets healthier (he will grow out of his illness but the delays are still a challenge) I find I'm fine with being the skinny loud one It is who I am...was when I was fat too LOL but what I have trouble in life with is how to have a "normal" child.

We have our "normals" which aren't normal...my little guy and yours, as well as weight issues. We learn to adapt to our normal and then we get thrown back into the bigger (and different) normal and ummmm well it feels not so normal!

I haven't changed since I've lost weight, but then I've been thin in the last ten years so fat was not normal for me. This makes my transition easier, but honestly, I'm the same person I was fat or thin...I just wear smaller clothing. I have changed since my son was born. He is my only surviving child and I haven't done "normal". So I'm probably over protective, overly fearful, and have to talk myself out of being a helicopter mom on a regular basis. I'm also overly sensitive to his issues that remain because I'm his mom and I know he's got a soft heart that gets hurt easier than most....yet I know he has to experience that as it's part of growing up. I struggle with this stuff daily and much more so now that he's "normal" (he appears to be anyhoo and goes to a school without a special needs designation attached). It's hard to have your "normal" screwed with, even when the changes are good ones!

I think you're going to do just fine and yes you may fumble a bit, but remember WE ALL DO! Just keep smiling and you'll get through it. Tell me you haven't done that with your little guy's situation more than once???? You just kinda have to have it in you darling.

[takroom 192]

Ok, Woman In Me, I can tell you, from the time I was born & all my 48 years young, my mother told me my mouth would be my downfall....I haven't found a surgery to correct that problem yet (LOL). I am an outgoing, speak your mind, kinda woman. I wasn't always heavy, but even at my heaviest, my personality is what makes me.....Me. Big or small, be who you are! Have I been in uncomfortable situations since my weight loss, yes. Friends become jealous, for one reason or another, others in public make comments or can put you in an uncomfortable situation, but I am who I am & try not to take offense to comments. I do, however, take caution not to throw my weight loss in anyones face but I am proud of the skinnier me. I am, and always will be, that loud, happy, outspoken girl my mother always warned me I would become & I'm proud of it!!!

[lessofmeismore 1,405]

How do I be thin? I don't know. I know the WLS will help my body to lose the weight. But how do I make my personality thin? You've heard the quote' date=' "God made me fat because he knew a skinny body couldn't hold all this personality"? That's me. I have a loud, crazy, say anything, flirtatious personality. And nobody is threatened by it because I'm a fat girl. I'm scared females won't like me when I'm skinny. I'm scared they will think of me as "The Skinny B!+€#. I'm scared men will take me seriously when I make an off color remark and they'll take it as flirting. I'm scared my fat mouth will write a check my skinny ass can't cash. Can anyone identify with this?[/quote']

I think keep your personality it makes you awesome and fun!! No matter your weight. I imagine you bring life to any party

[lessofmeismore 1,405]

wow! I am so flattered. I really am thinking about writing a blog now. I will reply here if I decide I can squeeze it into my schedule. I'm already working 2 jobs and have a son with special needs so I stay pretty busy.

I hope you do!!! I'm already a fan!!!!