How do I be thin? I don't know. I know the WLS will help my body to lose the weight. But how do I make my personality thin? You've heard the quote, "God made me fat because he knew a skinny body couldn't hold all this personality"? That's me. I have a loud, crazy, say anything, flirtatious personality. And nobody is threatened by it because I'm a fat girl. I'm scared females won't like me when I'm skinny. I'm scared they will think of me as "The Skinny B!+€#. I'm scared men will take me seriously when I make an off color remark and they'll take it as flirting. I'm scared my fat mouth will write a check my skinny ass can't cash. Can anyone identify with this?

I can identify with this. I think about this all the time!

I am almost to onederland, and while I am very excited about it, there is something very scary about it also. I am not sure what it is. People DO react differently to you when you are a normal weight compared to an obese weight whether they mean to or not. I can identify with your feelings, but not sure what I will do when I get there either.

I lost a significant amount of weight over 10 years ago, more than 150 pounds (and put most of it back on, so here I am). I had the same issue. Over time as I lost the weight my personality got 'dialed down' a little, in a good way.

I used to think I was the biggest person in the room so I also needed to have the biggest personality in the room.

I was still the same person thin, same sense of humour, same everything - just more confident and self assured. I didn't have the need to be in peoples faces all the time.

PS - that was my story ..... I'm not saying you're in peoples faces

I'm scared my fat mouth will write a check my skinny ass can't cash

I'm still laughing at this!

And fat people don't have a monopoly on cheeky flirting either everyone does it :ph34r:

I had some anxiety about this and now that I'm skinny I find myself being confident and assertive in all situations. It feels really good too. Take it one day at a time and enjoy each and every day.

I've already had obese friends tell me they can only be my friend for one more month. And one asked me if I was still gonna love her when I was skinny and she was still fat. Wth? I'm not getting a brain or heart transplant. It's still me. This is my only fear. And it's strange to feel this way because I have NEVER been the type to worry about what other people thought about me.

I'm still laughing at this!

Ditto! Ditto!

And fat people don't have a monopoly on cheeky flirting either everyone does it :ph34r:

I know but I feel like people don't take me as seriously about my flirtiness now Or maybe I'm scared I will take their flirting more serious. Idk

I'm still laughing at this!

And I don't take crap off nobody because at this size I'm kinda intimidating I think. Or at least I'm not scared of anyone. But when I lose weight I may have to learn to keep my mouth shut. Maybe I'll ask the surgeon to implant a filter for my big mouth.

I've already had obese friends tell me they can only be my friend for one more month. And one asked me if I was still gonna love her when I was skinny and she was still fat. Wth? I'm not getting a brain or heart transplant. It's still me. This is my only fear. And it's strange to feel this way because I have NEVER been the type to worry about what other people thought about me.

That's sad, however, I so can relate. My super skinny best friend is starting to date a new guy ...she and I were high school buddies and we turn 50 this year. She's always been skinny and I've always been fat. Neither of us has dated in a few years and I am so happy for her yet a little jealous and worried I am losing my hanging buddy! I was looking forward to going out with her and getting some attention! She gets it all now!

How do I be thin? I don't know. I know the WLS will help my body to lose the weight. But how do I make my personality thin? You've heard the quote' date=' "God made me fat because he knew a skinny body couldn't hold all this personality"? That's me. I have a loud, crazy, say anything, flirtatious personality. And nobody is threatened by it because I'm a fat girl. I'm scared females won't like me when I'm skinny. I'm scared they will think of me as "The Skinny B!+€#. I'm scared men will take me seriously when I make an off color remark and they'll take it as flirting. I'm scared my fat mouth will write a check my skinny ass can't cash. Can anyone identify with this?[/quote']

I look at it this way your health comes first so the purpose of your surgery is for prolonged healthy life end of the day you are still you

I have this problem. I have a reputation for saying ANYTHING. Mostly because I have known that I'm not what women were looking for, so, I was safe. Man, I'm not safe anymore. I've been getting more attention, and sometimes, it's uncomfortable. But, I think in time, I'll be ok with it.

How do I be thin? I don't know. I know the WLS will help my body to lose the weight. But how do I make my personality thin? You've heard the quote' date=' "God made me fat because he knew a skinny body couldn't hold all this personality"? That's me. I have a loud, crazy, say anything, flirtatious personality. And nobody is threatened by it because I'm a fat girl. I'm scared females won't like me when I'm skinny. I'm scared they will think of me as "The Skinny B!+€#. I'm scared men will take me seriously when I make an off color remark and they'll take it as flirting. I'm scared my fat mouth will write a check my skinny ass can't cash. Can anyone identify with this?[/quote']

I am still pre-sleeve, and I too have thought about this as well. Sometimes I feel like I make jokes so people won't 'notice' my largeness....

But honestly I hope I don't change too much. I think being a bigger person has taught me to be more sensitive, compassionate and overall a more thoughtful person. Because I have lived like this practically my whole life I am going to be the complete package. My outsides are going to match my insides.

I think at the end of the day you are who you are. It's a natural evolution for us to change and grow and you are going to change when you become a thinner person, it's the way it is. Just make sure you take a step back so you don't lose the qualities you love about yourself!

Good luck! I can't wait to join you on the losers bench!

Sheena :-)