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Doing absolutely everything I have been told to do and failing. Sleeved oct 8th so six weeks ago at 280. Down to 256 but 17 of the 24 was the first 2 weeks. Getting 60-80 g Protein 50-60 Water. Calories 600-700 carbs under 20. Walking daily. I give up. If I cant loose doing everything they said to do why even try anymore?

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well, 1. because you have no choice now and 2. because this is typical. I lost 22 pounds my first 6 weeks and 10 lbs was from the first week. I was sleeved April 24th and just hit the 75lbs mark. I have plateaued, I have been frustrated and I have been where you are. But the weight comes off. I am not happy with the pace, but it has its bright sides. No loose skin, my hair has not fallen out, I was able to save some money for new clothes over the long interim. Hang in there and take it easy on yourself. Your body is in starvation mode right now. It will be a while (like 2 weeks) before it adjusts and lets the weight go.

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What is your idea of success? Does it actually matter if you loose all your excess over a Xnumber of months versus Ynumber of months?

I am trying to gently suggest that the all or nothing thinking (dammit if I can't be skinny NOW, why bother!?!!!!) might be an old thought pattern rearing it's ugly head?

Even so, I understand your frustration. Do you work with a NUT? They can be very helpful at examing the details and coming up with good specific suggestions. You will get a lot of general replies on here, but without reviewing your actual food and activity log, it is speculation.

A general recommendation is to shake things up when things aren't going well. An example might be replace the walking with more intense exercise. Or, try eating a few more carbs or calories (not alot, just a few). Just change something and that can shake up things and get the weight loss going again.

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Not trying to negate what you are dealing with but almost EVERYONE feels this way at some point during this process. If I was a betting woman I would bet you a million bucks that you won't stay 256lbs. You knew you wouldn't go from 280 to goal in 2 months. Your weight loss sounds awesome so far. Stay strong and don't be discouraged; around here you're in the "normal" group.

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remember this a life long journey, and it takes time. what your feeling is normal, take a deep breath and you are gonna be fine...never ever give up.. congrats on losing the weight u have already..

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Honestly. I am not trying to whine or feel sorry for myself. Rather, I tend to think through things. So I'm trying to make sense of it. At some point someone scientifically developed this plan so if the plan is not working there should be a better plan.

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Wendy, its okay your body is just adjusting. I went through it! I struggled thinking why am I not losing but it came in mysterious ways! Stay positive, your doing great! you started two weeks earlier than your surgery so technically you are hitting a slow down period. These stalls happen but trust me your body is burning fat and the surgery is working. Your weight loss so far is excellent! Try not to be hard on your self or compare...its a different ride for everyone but we all lose and we all stall. Your doing great girl!!!!! Keep up what your doing, the pay off will be amazing!!! Patience :)

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You didn't mention measurements. Are you tracking?

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Hi Wendy; It's time for a reality check........You lost 24 lbs in less than a month, is that correct? Wow, that's more than you would of lost before getting sleeved.......It's working big time.....before you know it, you will be buying new clothes because your current cloths won't even stay on your body.....Yep, that's right, new smaller size clothes. Please try to sit back and enjoy the roller coaster ride your on. Learn how to change the old habits that contributed to your weight loss. You will be a big success at this! :) In fact, you already are a success! Keep it up, your doing great....... :)

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Hang in there Wendy, it does get better, I promise! We all had that feeling at one time or another. Mix it up a bit, add some calories, Water, exercise, it worked for me every time. Best of luck to you!

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Ok thanks yall. I'm gonna find some faith in this process. Just to answer a few comments, no I have not measured and 24# in 6 weeks not less than a month. But thank you all it helps knowing I'm not the only one who has felt hopeless.

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I understand! I lost about 20 lb in the 2 weeks preop but only lost 3 lb post-op when I weighed in 2 weeks after my surgery. I'm not sure if that's "normal" or what!

Good luck and keep up the good work! "Nothing good comes easy..sometimes you've gotta fight."

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I hear ya! So frustrating. 4 weeks out and down 25 but 13 preop. scale just bouncing back and forth the same 2 lbs all week. I agree the frustration is not so much the weight not coming off immediatley, but why.

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I feel same way! It seems so slow! I was sleeved Aug 31st. From preop till now I have lost 37 pounds. It seems you read of so many on here that lose so fast, but some of us do not lose that fast. All the responses on your post are very encouraging. I understand your frustration. Although I wonder about my eating cause nothing seems to bother me, I just can't eat very much at a time. Hopefully, because it is slower, it will be like one poster said, no saggy skin and no Hair loss. Please let it be that way!!

We will just have to stick it out and wait for our time, cause it will come!

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