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Hi everyone

I just got banded last week and I am planning on telling my boss on Monday. Did anyone else have issues with telling their co-workers or others? I am afraid he will be judgemental and I can't sleep at night going over and over in my head what I will say to him so that he understands. Anyone have any suggestions?

Thanks

Dessia

Banded 10-10-06

Dr. Kuri

If you would like my thoughts on this I would NEVER tell anyone! I made the mistake in letting everyone know and it was the wrong choice as far as putting myself on display for everyone to be wondering how much I have lost or haven't lost. It stirs up all kinds of issues.

My thoughts exactly. why tell your boss, it's really Nobody's business that U don't want to know!

I didn't tell anyone in my office either, in fact the only one in this city who knows is my daughter. I'm self-pay (read very in debt :nervous ) so it's really no one else's business. However, here's my problem, I have to take a day off once a month to travel to get fills. So far I've been very evasive about what is "wrong" with me, but wish I could think of a good answer to the questions and concerns. Many of my co-workers are worried about me and that makes me feel like a heel, but I'm adamant that my evil boss never find out the real reason I have to see my doctor once a month.

tell them you are thinking about getting a sex change

PEOPLE are so nosey

give them a smart ass answer so they can stay out of your business

derbygirl, what an insensitive jerk your boss is!!! i'm sorry you have to work for someone like that. What do you do for as living? I think I'd look for another job.

llewis

I've thought about this regarding my own situation-surgery in March '07. I don't plan on telling anyone at work. My concern is that the normal to skinny and the " I just eat whatever I want" gang would be judgemental. I found people just think chub's are lazy and weak minded and if we actually truly tried and put down the fork once in a while we'd win the battle. I'm on this journey with my friends and family at my side. The receptionist through to the Big Wigs don't need to know. As soon as someone at the office knows you're on a diet, out comes the comments. Aren't you on a diet? How many pounds do you have to lose? And everyone seems to have "a friend" who was on this diet and /or that diet.

Nosy office co-workers say:"The grapefruit diet works well!" "oh, you've tried that one and it didn't work? weird!"

me: "yes, I tried it and it didn't work."

Nosy office co-workers say: "Did you try it while skateboarding backwards down a hill, in a pair of Jordache jeans, legwarmers and jelly shoes from the 80's??

me; "No..."

Nosy co-workers say:"Well that explains it...you're dumb and fat!!"

Kidding aside...do what you're comfortable with. You may find all the support you need here, among people who know the up's and down's related to your journey.

Michelle

im self pay to where are u having your surgery ...and im lower bmi also and i have the same issues with my boss and coworkers