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Should I Ask?

Nessa1977

By Nessa1977, in The Gals' Room

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Nessa1977    155

Nessa1977
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As part 2 to my Flirting topic, is it OK to ask a guy what aftershave he is wearing or is that getting too personal, considering I've only known him for about 3 months (I only see him once a week though).

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COnative    192

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LOL. I think you should ask- especially if you really like it or really hate it. I'm not the type to hold back so I probably would have asked him on the first date- I'm really bad that way. Too funny. I am super sensitive to smell so I am always commenting on if people smell good- not so much if they smell bad.

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Squisha    99

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It's never to soon to ask someone what sent they are wearing. I have been known to ask an occasional stranger what they are wearing if i really like a scent.

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Nessa1977    155

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No I love what he wears. I loiter in the consultation room after he's left for the day just to get a whiff LOL.

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Holly5.3    423

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I would ask! Tell him you love it and just have to know the name! (act like your buying it for a guy as a gift) it may open the door to a discussion (date, dare I say!). If nit, no harm no foul, you were complimenting him. Good luck!

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MiniMo    41

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I agree, Go for it! If its a miss, oh well, but you can say you did it! You will probably gain a ton of confidence.

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urboyp    85

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I know I'm not supposed to be in here ...... But I think you should hear this. Confidence can be the most attractive quality in a woman. Being honest , saying what you mean and asking what you want to know ( without caring about the outcome) will separate you from the rest. You hear people speak of guys gaining liquid courage after a few drinks.... Well my sleeve has been my "liquid courage". I hope everyone can experience this newly found care free view on life. So go for it.... Tell the dude that he smells delish lol just don't tell him that you sniff the room when he leaves cause he might think that's weird lol JK. Just do it!!!

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chitowngirl    886

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I agree with urboyp. He's right on the money. There is nothing wrong with asking a guy that. Good luck, and there is nothing like a drink or two to relax you enough so that your not uncomfortable.

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Nessa1977    155

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Sadly, he's finished up for the year. Hoping he'll be back next year though.

Or maybe even this year if he needs to fill in. Fingers crossed.

But I think this attraction is a one way street :(.

I have NFI if he has a girlfriend or wife (can't see a ring, but that doesn't mean anything).

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