Hello all. I have only been a part of this forum for a week or so. I am SO happy that I found a place where I can read real experiences and find a place where people understand my struggles. It shows I am not alone.

But I have a question – and this is no means to start an argument – it seems some people love to make a battle, and I don’t intend this to be one.

This is what I want to know. Why are we embarrassed to tell others (outside of our family – sometimes within) about the journey we are on or have done? Why do we allow others to make us feel that we should be ashamed or feel bad that we have chosen WLS? Most of us already feel bad that we are overweight – yet we allow the fact that we are doing something about it make us feel ashamed? I just don’t get it. (Of course if you are just a private person, this doesn’t apply – this is only intended for those who are feel ashamed or have a low self-esteem regarding the WLS)

I’m not saying tell everyone you know, but why “hide” it? Of course we are going to hear negative comments, opinions and even the horror stories. But guess what? It’s your decision – your body – your life. Just let those comments go from one ear and out the other. Then remember not to talk to those people about it again. You will find that you will get so many people supporting you. More people will support your decision and your journey then you think. Then guess what – it keeps you accountable. Others will keep you going with all of the positive comments. “Girl, you are looking GOOD”, “Man, you are smokin’”. You will start feeling SO good with all of the comments you will receive. Of course you will get these comments even if they don’t know – but my point is….you will have the biggest support system you could even dream of. Then all of those that were negative, prove wrong. Allow them to eat crow. Don’t be ashamed of what you are doing. EVER.

I use this as an example. I am in an interracial marriage. I dare someone to say something negative about my husband or child. I also dare them to do the same about me. YOU control how people treat you. Be proud of yourself no matter what.

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