Welp....I had my psych eval on Monday. I don't even know what to think. She spoke like I was a good candidate for VSG and that I'm going into it for the right reasons. At one point she asked if I grew up in an abusive home, I said yes. Then she asked who the aggressor was. I said my mom. And that is the only time my mom was mentioned; well other than asking if we have a good relationship now; which we do. At the end of the interview she told me that I needed to 'stop listenening to my mom's voice' and 'stop her voice from telling me I'm not good enough and that I don't deserve to be happy.' Then she said that she was withholding her approval until after my personal counselor tells her that I am ready. This seems ludicrous to me. First of all, we didn't delve into my past with my mom, I never cried or indicated that my mom's voice was in my head. Secondly, is she trying to ruin my relationship with my counselor? Sheesh.

When I told my counselor what she said, she about fell out of her chair; and told me that that she has no intention of approving or disapproving my decision; and that it is my decision. She said that her job is to make sure that I am doing it for the right reasons; and that I don't have any 'pie in the sky' ideas of what this surgery will do for me.

So now I'm just waiting to see if the evaluator contacts my counselor. This is just too annoying!

That is crazy! Sounds like HE needs a psych eval! I would definitely clarify things with him when you see him next.

Thank you Donna!! I was nervous the first time, this time I need answers!!

Thank you Donna!! I was nervous the first time' date=' this time I need answers!![/quote']

When my pysch ask me about my husband I said he's concern about my well being far as having the surgery but I'm always educating him .. I try not to tell them in very detail I gave answer that would allow the conversation to go on

That wouldn't go on I mean

Wow! I was nervous going to my eval but it turned out great! I was prepared to tell as little as possible to "pass" but ended up just having a nice convo with the Dr. & was given the all-clear. I'm so sorry for your hard times. You can see any dr you wish for the eval though. You don't have to stick to the list your surgeon gives you.

I must have had a great psych. I was pretty darn honest and got emotional at some points. She was very understanding and supportive. She basically told me I need to cut myself a break. Approved on first visit. I didn't know why some were so difficult. From all of the posts in this thread of people who weren't immediately approved, I say shame on those psychs. They should be weeding out people who truly aren't good candidates for reasons such as lack of commitment to the process, unrealistic expectations, or other things that put them in danger. Holding someone hostage because of their past experiences that aren't relevant is beyond ridiculous. Glad to hear most of you worked through it quickly.

My psych(o) brought up my mother as well. She was a bit of a nut case. But in the end she did approve me. Good luck!

My psych(o), thats hilarious

I've been thinking a lot about eval coming up in two weeks... I am paying self pay so that I don't have to deal with insurance bs. My father walked out on my family when I was 13 I've paid lots and lots if money over the past 10 years for therapy... I'm not getting into any of that... I'm not gonna lie but I'm not gonna give too much info either... Strait down the middle... My husband his being sleeved this summer so no issues there..

8 weeks but who's counting?? THIS GIRL!

Wow it's a good thing I'm doing self pay. Sounds to me like I wouldn't have a chance in hell getting approved after previous eating disorders, drug abuse as well as a 'difficult but still loving' relationship with my parents.

Good luck

I had to go to another psych. The first one told me that though I don't eat when stressed, I am an emotional eater and should work on that for 6 months. Made no sense.

Went to the second psych and she wanted a phone follow up to see that I was following my pre op plan and I was approved

Just curious...do you think psychs are given a psych eval before they can do evals? Or is crazy contagious? If my daughter was considering a guy on Plenty of Fish who was a psych evaluator I would disable her computer!

I think there are some cases when emotional eaters freak out when they can no longer emotionally eat. If the only thing that keeps you sane is a half gallon of ice cream and you no longer have the ability to eat the half gallon, what will you do?

I think there are some cases when emotional eaters freak out when they can no longer emotionally eat. If the only thing that keeps you sane is a half gallon of ice cream and you no longer have the ability to eat the half gallon' date=' what will you do?[/quote']

Pretend to eat a half gal of ice cream and instead have some cold Water and go workout! one obsession or another...

I was totally 100% honest in mind, about my childhood, the issues there, etc etc. We had a nice chat.

I won't harp on mental health, but I think it's the single biggest thing lacking in the bariatric community today and why we see the failures that we do. I'm glad that I sought out a counselor on my own.

Having said THAT... I'm glad she followed up with your personal counselor. I really think one visit isn't enough for them to base their decision on.

I was self-pay, but my doctor still required a fitness eval, psych eval and all that stuff. I loved that he still wanted to be sure I knew what I was getting myself into.

I also HAD to get a second opion for my eval once a phycholigist and 1 phychiatrist I see the phychiatrist every 3 mnths so I do see him and know him better so he thinks now its up to the surgeon ya I was wondering bc I hated to just stop right there after comming so far (I thought) Im still so far way I think.... Its been almost 2 mnths since my seminar I have my labs done also I cant wait for my CONSULT Im still awaiting for it.......