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I think that's a normal feeling..I'm going through it myself even though Im not looking at surgery until January. I'm constantly going back and forth, have days where I'm super excited and days where it just doesn't set well with me. Yes, I am a woman..and yes I am fickle!! I am trying to focus on the positive but still want to be mentally prepared for anything not so good that could come my way. The fear of the unknown is the hardest fear for many of us and only hope and faith and having as much knowledge as we can going in will get us through to the other side. Keep reading/posting and know that you are stronger than you think...you can do it! :)

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So now it's real! You are scheduled for surgery and it's going to happen! This is totally normal and we are going to be happy to have the empty next to us on the BIG LOSER's BENCH occupied! Congrats and try to focus on something else to distract your anxiety..... :)

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I was all for this and excited. Last night they called to set my date - December 17- 2 days before my 42nd birthday. Now I am scared.

What a great gift to yourself! I can imagine what you're feeling. Keep going over your reasons for starting on this journey and you'll be ok. When in doubt or having a hard time, turn to this site. I have found it to be a wealth of information and support.

Good luck and Congratulations on setting your date!!

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I got my surgery date today as well. November 12. I am "wet my pants" scared!!!! I am not going to chicken out. I keep repeating that to myself all day. Now that I've said it out loud (you can hear me, right?) I know I can't back down. . Some one reminded me that it's easier than other surgeries that I have had. Two c sections, hysterectomy, deviated septum. It will be just fine, right?

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i got my surgery date today - December 19th. It's all becoming real - however, I was more nervous going to the appointment than coming out with a date! We're scheduled real close together!! I wish you the best!

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I am in the same boat my friend..I worked so hard to complete all the pre-reqs, Now that I have they called yesterday to set the date..My legs started to shake and my stomach dropped..November 19th..Now I'm so nervous!! Glad I found somebody else.

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It does seem we share all the same feelings. It's reassuring to know I'm not the only one feeling these things.

Thanks everyone!

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I had a problem with my 12 year old son this week and nearly called to cancel surgery, thinking "How can I possibly take this time from my kids." I am a single parent of 3 adopted special needs kiddos. I had been trying to figure out how to care for them here and be 4 hours away in a hospital alone. Then my sister, who has MS, called. She has figured out how to get to San Antonio to be with me while her grown daughter comes here to take care of my kids...

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OK. So we are all scared and this is likely normal. I just need to figure out how all of you are going to hold my hand cyberly (yeah, I know that's not a word). Internet hand holding. I' hold yours and pray for you as well.

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I got my date dec 18 now very excited and nervous. Keep worrying about things. But also excited that I might be able to ride rides again especially since my daughter is 7 and able to go on them but she wants me to go on them with her

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I was all for this and excited. Last night they called to set my date - December 17- 2 days before my 42nd birthday. Now I am scared.

Well what a great gift to you from your insurance company. Enjoy. I am aiming for mid December. Just hurry up and wait is what I am doing right now.

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I was sleeved Tuesday 10/23. I honestly didn't have a lot of hesitation before the day of. I guess I kept thinking I would somehow find a way to mess it up & it wouldn't happen for me. My freak out moment came during pre-op at the hospital. But I had a great support system & I knew its what I wanted to do...so I put my big girl panties on & did it. No regrets! I'm so happy I did this for myself & I know you will all do great as well! Good luck!

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