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So I'm getting my surgery on 10/10 and I'm kind of worried because the man I'm with doesn't think in going to be as skinny as I think. I knows he's a chaser and thinks he'll love me skinny, but I don't think he will. What should I do?

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You need to remember why you are doing this...skinny or not...what is the reason for you going through with this procedure?? Is this procedure for you or for him? You need to be more secure in yourself sweetie....if he decides to leave once you lose weight, that's his business....dont let that affect him....

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Get ready for a huge change, I read that 80% of relationships fail after Gastric surgery. If your relationship was weak before the surgery it will be worst. Why? because you feel like you no longer have to settle because you are now HOT and available. If you were skinny before you got fat and stayed together then it is a different story/outcome, you guys have a chance. I wish you good luck but according to the statistic it won't last....Tell me how it works out.

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You should learn to love you first and foremost! If he leaves you because of your new size then he can kick rocks because he clearly wasn't the right one for you. Love is blind, it doesn't see the numbers on a scale :-) When you love you, no matter what the numbers say, others will love you too! Keep your head up sugar and don't worry about the what if's. All we have is the here and now, tomorrow isn't promised and yesterday is history....you remember that, ok? And keep us posted! All the uplifting thoughts and energies I have are being sent your way. {{{HUGS}}}

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I can tell you my experience I have had guys chasing me but after I lost weight they are no longer interested because they are chasers but I know that I did the surgery for me

I had to do it for health reasons. I feel so much better after I lost the weight my blood pressure is normal no meds my feet ankles and knees don't hurt I have more energy I sleep a lot better

If someone wants me they want me for who I am not what I look like fat or skinny.

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I can tell you my experience I have had guys chasing me but after I lost weight they are no longer interested because they are chasers but I know that I did the surgery for me

I had to do it for health reasons. I feel so much better after I lost the weight my blood pressure is normal no meds my feet ankles and knees don't hurt I have more energy I sleep a lot better

If someone wants me they want me for who I am not what I look like fat or skinny.

Thanks James! I needed to be healthy and some chasers are kind of gross. My partner says he's afraid I may die from a heart attack or something so he wants me to lose the weight I just don't know how it'll be lol.

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What do yall mean by chasers?

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What do yall mean by chasers?

Chubby chasers - people who are only into chubby people

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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