I went to my local gp this afternoon to get another referral to my band doctor as they only last 12 months.

Anyway i told the doc how much weight i have lost and how happy and good im feeling. She said oh let me take your weight and height measurements to check your bmi. So she did all that and my BMI was 34...WOW i was really happy as before i got banded it was like 52 i think.

The doc said that is way to high and it should be 20-25 and i really need to lose more weight. Geez cant she see how far i have already came and give a postive instead of saying what she said. I felt very intimidated as i thought losing 35kg in 10 months was a good effort but obviously not:(.

Sorry i just had to let this out, normally i dont but i mustv neede to...lol

Damn Fee!

You've done an amazing job. DON'T LET ANYONE RAIN ON YOUR PARADE (I hope that means the same thing there as it does to us Yanks...) Did you at least get your referal?

You have done a great job! Don't let him get you down!

fee, you're doing so well. Either your GP is a total boob or else may be busy. Some practitioners see so many people in a day, week, month that even if they've seen you many times, they may honestly not remember what your condition on previous visits was without carefully going over their notes and we know they often don't do that. I'm hoping that is the case rather than insensitivity.

Anyway, congratulations on your fabulous loss.

Doctors must be listened to for medical advice. :help:

Their personal demeanor, however, can be chucked out of the window. :huytsao

Many doctors smoke and engage in other unhealthy activities. :faint:

Look in the mirror and be proud. :clap2:

You do not need this doctor's emotional support. You do not need anyone's emotional support.

I think you are doing great, but I don't matter either. :confused:

That kind of reply needs addressed RIGHT THEN!! Do not allow her to overlook your accomplishments. Call her on her attitude/statement!! You pay her salary she is your employee. Until you and other patients stop allowing her abuse you she will continue. Your other choice is to pick another GP.

She is a person and not one of a higher status. You are paying for her medical knowledge. My reply would have been yes it is 34 but 10 months ago is was in the 50's and while I acknowledge you would like it in the 20s it cannot happen overnight. Thats why I am here to get my referral for continued care from the surgeon who is assisting not judging me.

Doctors are taught in medical school to distance themselves and seperate to a point of rude to the lay person. Sometimes it takes a patient to reground/ reteach the human-ness of medicine. You can also just very politely ask her- Tell me something, do you feel I have not done well? why are you so harsh with me? Sometimes just a patient taking time to ask her about the harshness helps soften.

Chalk this one up to being caught off guard! I think you have done WONDERFUL!!! :clap2: :clap2: Next time go in armed and ready for her and make it a conversation two way dont allow her to do that to you!!

Not all doctors are jerks. Was this an off day or is she customarily rude? If so can you find yourself a more supportive one? I briefly saw a doc who was so nasty that she might have actually had psychiatric problems before dumping her in order to hunt for a nice one. This took a bit of time as I wanted one who was close to home and a woman but it was worth the work. The one I've got now is a good doctor and a supportive human being. By the way, I went about finding a doctor by asking people in the neighbourhood including store owners about their own doctors.

thank-you all for your kind replies.

Vinesqueen....yes i got the referral thank goodness:)

gonnabethin....yes i told her then that i had lost so much weight and about my BMI but i felt she didnt believe me as this is only a doc i would go to for something like a referral or a common cold nothing to major as i dont have my total trust in her YET.

Iluv harleys.....Thank-you

Devana..........Thank-you

Tired-Old-Man......Thanks...your funny...lol

green.....yes i know not all docs are jerks.....maybe she was just having a bad day

I am feeling better today and i cant wait to see my band doc tomorrow:)

will let you know what he has to say

Thanks everyone