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I chose not to tell co-workers about my VSG. A new employee was informed by our co-workers that I had my "stomach stapled." New employee told me. Since I never told them in the 1st place, why are they telling others? The person talking is one of the largest people I know, so I would think she would be more understanding.

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Don't let her bother you! She is probably just jealous. People we think should be the most understanding are usually the worst. Chin up! You chose a healthier lifestyle!

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I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It is her jealousy and insecurity.

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I chose not to tell co-workers about my VSG. A new employee was informed by our co-workers that I had my "stomach stapled." New employee told me. Since I never told them in the 1st place, why are they telling others? The person talking is one of the largest people I know, so I would think she would be more understanding.

Some people have class, some need a class:Basic Humanity 101

Don't waste your time or emotional resources on bottom feeders and concern about what they say and do.

Enjoy your life with those who have the intelligence and maturity to accept, appreciate and enjoy you.

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I chose not to tell co-workers about my VSG. A new employee was informed by our co-workers that I had my "stomach stapled." New employee told me. Since I never told them in the 1st place, why are they telling others? The person talking is one of the largest people I know, so I would think she would be more understanding.

Wait. If you chose not to tell co-workers, how did they know in the first place?

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I've had the same problem. I choose not to let her drag me down to her level. Since then I've become more open about it. I did this for me, not for them. So let them talk. You are beautiful. Show them that talking crap behind your back only means that you mean so much to them you are always on their mind. Pure jealousy... chin up. Dont sweat them small crap. :D

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There could be a potential hippa violation. If you didn't tell anyone at work how did they find out?

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Wait. If you chose not to tell co-workers, how did they know in the first place?

My first thought was it was pure speculation because someone was jealous of the weightloss.

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I told everyone & what has been really interesting is I have found who my real friends are & who I need to cut loose...

Sounds like you have identified who you need to avoid!

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I did not tell anyone except my husband and my sister, who lives in another state. It has to be speculation. The new co worker said she has seen me eat and there is no way I could've had a bypass and eat that much (I know tricks for making it look like I've eaten alot). I told her she was right...I DID NOT have a bypass. LOL!!

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Did you take formal FMLA because an HR admin, could have told.

Either way, it's not wise to spend too much time on what someone who isn't responsible for your livelihood is saying about you behind your back...or to your face for that matter.

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It's a shame that some people have to be so cruel. I agree that they may be jealous. If someone confronts you and you need to respond, just tell them you wanted to have a healthier you and a healthier lifestyle and that you have made a decision that you feel is the best for you and your future health. There is nothing wrong with having this surgey. I say that I the size of my stomach decreased, not that I had it stapled. I had another issue as well, as 1/3 of my stomach had protruded up through my diaphragm and was lodged between my lungs and heded for my heart. Heart disease is the biggest killer among women and you took a precaution that would help prevent any heart conditions in the future. I am 9 months and at my goal nd I am no longer on any meds and feel great. It is a big decision, and you should be proud you are on your way to good health. Tell them it is a private matter and you really don't wish to discuss it. You are not obligated to explain.

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She's just jealous of ur courage to do something about ur weight and wishes deep down that she wud have done it before you!! I've already had friends that are smaller than me say they wish they cud get that surgery! Ignore ignorance and flaunt ur weightloss at work girl! Buy ur smaller scrubs or whatever u wear and show off the NEW YOU!!!

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