21 yrs old 5'0" 230lbs BMI 45 ideal weight 98-122lbs how do I not need this?

Congratulations on deciding to do this when you're young! I'm 51 and have struggled with my weight my whole life. I would lose and then each time gain it back. I can't imagine how different my life might have been if I was not obese most of the time. After I lost weight once my son who was about 14 at the time admitted he had been embarrassed by me and that broke my heart. People who have never been overweight can't even begin to imagine how hard it is to always struggle. I'm looking forward to my surgery and being able to buy pretty mother of the bride/groom dresses when the time comes and to be able to be active with my future grandchildren. Good luck!

This is why I didn't want to tell anyone at work. I only told my family that knows my struggle and my fiancé. It's sad because my fiancé says I don't need it. I am 5'4 and 244