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Ummmm, I cannot wait to have skinny sex with my husband. We have always had great lovin', but I feel like I am more into doing different stuff when I am smaller. Hubby only needs to loose like 20lbs and I am sure that will happen when I am sleeved. (He is not the type to eat crap in front of me either).

Good for you and good for her :D

I don't care what some people say, sex is a very healthy, important part of any relationship. It was actually one of the things the Doc asked me during my psych eval.

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I am working hard to get where you're at. I feel tons better already but I feel the real gains are still ahead of me. I'm glad there are guys like you here posting about your success. There are not enough men on this forum, and even fewer who have made it all the way like you have. It gives the rest of us guys the motivation to keep moving forward.

But I would like to add, that old saying about a man gains an inch for every thirty pounds he loses....well, I've lost damn near one hundred pounds and.....apparently, it's true.

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I am working hard to get where you're at. I feel tons better already but I feel the real gains are still ahead of me. I'm glad there are guys like you here posting about your success. There are not enough men on this forum, and even fewer who have made it all the way like you have. It gives the rest of us guys the motivation to keep moving forward.

But I would like to add, that old saying about a man gains an inch for every thirty pounds he loses....well, I've lost damn near one hundred pounds and.....apparently, it's true.

NICE! Yeah, I was pleasantly surprised, too ;) I'm not sure if the inch per thirty rule holds forever, but... yeah. It's nice!

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;) you're in for some fun times!

Sure can't wait for that.. I just hope with the surgery my appetite dont go too.. cause that will be a shame.. until right now I'm good and have no problem the more I get the better..lol.. but we will see in a month..

Good luck keep up the good job.. congratulations.!!!

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First real "encounter" since the surgery (lots of fooling around, but yesterday was... the full meal deal). And... guys... wow. GET THIS SURGERY.

Before the surgery, I was a real "one minute wonder" (if I could even get lucky; at 338, it doesn't happen much). I would be panting and wheezing and see spots, and I was lucky to even be able to finish. I was used to the woman not... finishing, either.

Yesterday.

SEVEN. HOURS.

She had more... moments of joy than I could count (maybe 12? 15? 20?), and I had... THREE.

THREE. In one night! Guys, I'm 42. That just doesn't HAPPEN to guys my age.

And it certainly never happened before the sleeve.

Good god, men, if you have ANY problems in that area at all and are pre-sleeve, RUN, don't walk, and get the surgery.

UN-FREAKING-BELIEVABLE. I thought that stuff only happened in porno movies...

Ok, I'll shut up now. But... wow.

Sore... exhausted... and happy ;)

Edit: uh, it wasn't seven hours continuously, I should mention... 8pm till 3am, but not all, uh, action. Even at my current fitness level, that WOULD kill me. Seven hours of go... rest, chat, laugh... go... rest, chat, laugh... repeat until too sore and exhausted to continue! And NOW I WILL shut up.

You appear to have blasted through some of your "touch" issues, no? Congratulations all around!!

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You appear to have blasted through some of your "touch" issues' date=' no? Congratulations all around!![/quote']

Yeah, you know, they're still there. But I've found a partner that I'm comfortable being vulnerable with, and the increased libido helps me get out of my head and enjoy the moment... to be fully present, if that makes sense.

I think the issues are still there, but a lot of poison is being drained out of them by feeling "like a man" again :)

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Maybe you should capitalize your screen name with a big O! Rock on!

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Maybe you should capitalize your screen name with a big O! Rock on!

Fantastic idea!

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I hate 'crashing' you guys forum, but I just have to say thanks for sharing and YOU GO BOY!! LOL

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I really wanted to reply to this. Yes' date=' sex is a LOT of work for a big guy. Ladies, all due respect, but most of the time, sex is all about US doing the work -- abs and core, legs, arms.![/quote']

LOL..not if I am on top (with hubby of course)!!! Yippee Ki Yea! Ride em' Cowgirl!!! *cracks her whip*!

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Do not make me turn the hose on you....

LOL! Sorry about that..lost my head there for a second...my posts are normally g-rated! ;)

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I have to agree with every thing the OP has said. I'm down over 200 lbs and the differences are monumental. Everything from desire to endurance to "control" to ... ahem... size... it's absolutely amazing the difference. Makes me sad to think of what I missed out on for so many years, but ecstatic to taste what the future holds.

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