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To NOT feel like my boobs are choking me when I am laying down....to NOT have constant back pain....to NOT have to adjust my top constantly.... To NOT have to pull myself up into my 4wd..... To NOT have to worry about fitting in movie seats....to NOT feel people are watching what I eat.... To NOT have to search my cupboard for ages every day to find something that fits....to NOT wear holes through the inner thighs of my favorite jeans..... To NOT feel embarrassed to be naked in front of my Husband..... To NOT miss out on special cuddles because I am too ashamed of how much I have let myself go since we first met.... Gee I could be here all day......this isn't the half of it. If only the skinny people could walk a day in our shoes then maybe they might not be so quick to judge / comment!

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I will be happy when I am not having my Asian Mom not give me those disapproving glances when I eat and to her not saying " your so pretty but just dont gain any more weight". I am tired of the the "Skinny B!tches" checking my husband out and giving their looks of disbelief when they see who he is with (me) I will be "Skinny B!tch" too only maybe not so much a B!tch.Knowing my Mother in law won't be talking about my weight to my husbands entire family behind my back and instead she will be talking and speculating on the lack there of but I am not telling her a thing . I look forward to not getting Fat Girl Rash on my thighs where they rub together when I wear dresses in the summer. Wearing a swimsuit that isn't black and doesn't look like an old lady suit. Not always feeling like a "Schlumpadinka" in my clothes,

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Ugh! I can't wait to NOT pee myself when I sneeze or cough!

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I can relate to most of these stories. I can't wait to be known for everything else about me that is awesome and NOT my weight.

Getting nervous that I won't fit in the booths at restaurants.

Not getting that "Oh God, please don't sit next to ME on this airplaine!" look!

Not avoiding folding chairs at all costs!

Not having my middle school students snicker when I have to squeeze between desks.

Not having to hear about what a pretty face I have...to finally get compliments on the rest of me.

To finally enjoy shopping.

And to truly be healthy...not to work my ass off without any of my ass coming off!

I'm getting sleeved on Friday 8/17, I couldn't be more excited and nervous! I had to postpone once because of my thyroid levels, but I am so ready for this! I'll keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers, please keep me in yours! :)

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Can't wait to NOT wear out a 10-year mattress in 4 years.

For the DIY types, cannot wait to NOT:

...have to buy 1A (300 pound) rated ladders

...not be able to fit my arm into a space to reach or fix something.

...slide partway under a car, only to have to slide back out and raise the jack some more to clear my stomach

...be afraid of crashing through my roof (the outside, not the ceiling)

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I cant wait not to have to hoold my breath when im walking down the street.

I cant wait not to look away when i think a guy is handsome

I cant wait not to be affraid to take an empty seat in the train bc of not fittin

I cant wait not watch other shop because theres no sizes for me :(

I cant wait not to squeaze into a 16 and be a 6

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I wear "gut sinchers" (that's what I call them lol) and I wear 2 of them just to smooth out my fat.. that would be nice to get rid of those.. ^_^

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And this is a big one for me: to NOT make fun of myself before someone else can.

You hit the nail on the head. I think this one is HUGE! You have to do it to break the awkward silence. Tonight I had to tell my boss who had been bugging me and buggine me about joining the rest of the department at a baseball game that I didn't want to go because I couldn't fit in the seats. Her 100 pound butt didn't have anything to say after that.

The saddest thing about this post is the things people say about us and we take it. I hate when skinny people say they don't notice weight and they don't treat large people differently. I want to yell bull. But you can't convince them.

I can't wait to get enough confidence to start dating.

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Can't wait to weigh less than my husband, ride a bike again, go skiing, kayaking, amusement rides, being comfortable in a plane. To shop anywhere, wear cute shoes, not have tummy toe as hubby calls it, like when your pants makes an indent into your belly. Oh and to have alot more fun in the sack :)

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@ Liz & others:

Jeez we have some toxic friends huh!?

My other half is a hot piece of tail, lol, but if he let someone talk that way about me (he'd never dare!!!) I'd dump his ass after I broke his legs and her face!!!!

Like trot McClure says: let's get confident, stupid ;) Mwahaha

And Liz, kick that azzes

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* kick that azz "friend" in the azz for you and us!!!!

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* gag! And it's Troy Mclure = stupid iPhone!!!

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And gag was meant to be gah!!!! Argh at auto correct!!!!

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This thread is the reason I love this site ... You guys are saying things that I thought I experienced all by myself.

I can't wait to not have this crippling fear of California summer. Extensive sweat and shorts and seeing girls in half tops ( ive accepted that I'll never be able to wear those lol) and not being able to wear that dress that shows my little waist but is upstaged by my gut ???? lol

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I can't wait to NOT feel guilty after every meal. I can't wait to not feel like hunger is some type of stepping stone to health. I can't wait to be able to say I'm fertile. I can't wait to not think that every little thing wrong with me is a symptom of diabetes ( I'm scared to death). I can't wait to not feel like I have to outdo most girls just to get noticed. I can't wait to not feel like every dude who likes me only likes me as a joke or because of some fetish. I can't wait to not have this faux confidence that I keep to make sure all my friends don't feel sorry for me when we go out to do things that normal people my age do.

(but seriously ... I can't wait to go out with my friends all dolled up and sexy an not feel like a mascot ... I can't wait to be these b*****s competition) I love my friends ... But it's onnnn lol

I can't wait to not feel like the guys who I think like me might be ashamed to be seen with me in public. I dread those stares so I mostly don't even go out anywhere ... Just Netflix at my home.

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