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I think my problem is I cannot invision what "small" is. I have never been "small." I was diagnosed as obese around age 6. I was always bigger than all my friends, the biggest on the softball team and an even bigger adult. I think I set my goal originally at 160lbs because I cannot imagine anything less. However, I know for my height 150# is a great target number. I just have no clue what it looks like. I think for ME having been obese (since childhood) the whole body image issues are extreme. I honestly have no clue what I should weigh or what looks appropriate. I figure I will take each day as it comes.

Good luck on your journey!

While I was a 'normal' child/teen, like you I cannot envision being SMALL. I mentioned on an earlier post that I am 52, and have been fat for about 27 years or so. The fact that I don't even really like food or eating anymore is CRAZY!!! So, yeah, I will learn to deal with being called TOO skinny!

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Well, I am having this debate with myself at this very moment. I am currently a size 5/6, small tops and small dresses and a little smaller than I look in my avatar.

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I totally understand what youre saying....I was just having this convo with a friend. I havent had surgery yet, but when I do I dont want to lose my curves either. I want to be healthy and comfortable in my skin. Best wishes to you!

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I remember the days in high school, stuffing myself, wishing I could get to 100 lbs..Oh my, what 30 years and three kids later, will do to you. I have no desire to be that small again, and have no worries that it will. Like Dooter said, I'm good at gaining weight..

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Just curious...why is it that after WLS or a great amt. of weight loss in general, a person's head tends to look too big for their body? Like a bobblehead! Silly, I know, but a serious question lol :)

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If you had asked, I would have said yes, I was a health freak/fitness nut in my earlier years

ok, ok, now how do I get Michelle Obama's arms?

I have been doing the ellipitical but my inner arms are 'sagging'?

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ok' date=' ok, now how do I get Michelle Obama's arms?

I have been doing the ellipitical but my inner arms are 'sagging'?[/quote']

Excercise & time. I've never paid much attention to her arms, but, if they are thin, endurance training & stretching will do the trick, if they are more athletic(muscular) then strength training is what you are looking for. My personal preference on a lady is a mix of both. Enough muscle that you can tell she is active but not so much that it looks masculine.

As far as the sag, the skin on your arms will continue to shrink for up to 2 years after your surgery.

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yeah I would like to be one of those girls too, trust me, if I was too skinny my mom will let me know. :)

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Words from my father. No one can ever be too rich or too skinny

Your father is a very smart man!

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Excercise & time. I've never paid much attention to her arms, but, if they are thin, endurance training & stretching will do the trick, if they are more athletic(muscular) then strength training is what you are looking for. My personal preference on a lady is a mix of both. Enough muscle that you can tell she is active but not so much that it looks masculine.

As far as the sag, the skin on your arms will continue to shrink for up to 2 years after your surgery.

Her arms are a 'little' muscular but not too masculine.

Thank you!

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I think my problem is I cannot invision what "small" is. I have never been "small." I was diagnosed as obese around age 6. I was always bigger than all my friends, the biggest on the softball team and an even bigger adult. I think I set my goal originally at 160lbs because I cannot imagine anything less. However, I know for my height 150# is a great target number. I just have no clue what it looks like. I think for ME having been obese (since childhood) the whole body image issues are extreme. I honestly have no clue what I should weigh or what looks appropriate. I figure I will take each day as it comes.

Good luck on your journey!

I am exactly the same as you, I totally relate! I am 4'11 (currently 255) and it was nice to hear my doctor say that I will be a nice size at 150.

Most doctors tell me 114 and that sounds SOOO scary to me!! Anyhow I have no idea what either of these weights will look like on me lol so One day at a time like you!

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My concern is that both times my wife lost weight and made goal she got knocked up and I just hope that that does not happen to me.

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I am not concerned about getting to small witht he sleeve... I am more concerned with not keeping enough weight off... Unfortunately I think most of us should be more concerned about that! I have easily gained 3-5 pounds a few times and have had to be careful to lose those again!!!!

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I am 6.8 pounds away from goal (!!!!) and I have been getting a few comments lately that "i'm skinny enough" or "i look sickly" (I take everything that woman says with a few grains of salt). The thing is, my goal is 150 (I'm 5'6") and that puts me just barely below the "overweight" category. I think 154 and below is normal. As of right now, I'm in a size 8 pants which is NORMAL! Sheesh!

I think people are just used to seeing you bigger and they'll just have to get used to the new you!

As for the fact of not being able to stop the weight loss, I think your body will stop where it is comfortable.

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