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I am talking about even people who saw me during the journey - someone I saw just 2 months ago walked right by me not recognizing me. My good friend keeps doing double takes! I guess I really DO look different. She tells me that there is no way i still have 40-45# left to lose - well, I really do, but it still made me feel good!

-Size 16 (no W!!) instead of 26W or whatever I could cram myself into

-Comparable size to many of the women i know, even though I still have more to lose

-People are INVITING me to ride their horses! Offers I would have never gotten before. I am a good rider, it is just I was so dang huge!

-I can crawl in and out of the bed of my truck (hooking up the gooseneck hitch!). Could not have done that 6 months ago

-I no longer feel like I am made of glass and could break with the slightest stumble or fall.

-I can run, keep up with my dogs, horses etc.

Living the life I want - this is the dream!

So, the weird thing for me recently is clothes shopping. I feel like an intruder in the regular sizes section... like I will be tossed out when somebody discovers I snuck in...lol. I can't seem to find clothes that i like though, it is weird, it looks to me like the cute stuff is int he plus sizes. What the heck is wrong with me??? lol. i don't think I have any danger of becoming shopping obsessed.

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So happy for you!!! :)))

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that is an awsome feeling for you !!!

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That is awesome!!! Congrats on your success! :)

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That's amazing!!! I can't wait until that happens for me. Keep up the good work~!!!

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Jane,

I love this story! I have the same thing going on and I chopped my hair SUPER short so people are really shocked when they see me - IF - they don't walk past me - LOL! Funny for me, is I don't know what looks so different until I see myself in a picture. Now that I'm thinking that (as I'm typing) I think that's how it was when I was heavy too. I mean, I knew I was overweight, but the mirror made me think it wasn't so horrible; it was the PICTURES that couldn't lie!

Good for you to have a body that can now keep up with your head, heart and soul!!

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I am talking about even people who saw me during the journey - someone I saw just 2 months ago walked right by me not recognizing me. My good friend keeps doing double takes! I guess I really DO look different. She tells me that there is no way i still have 40-45# left to lose - well, I really do, but it still made me feel good!

-Size 16 (no W!!) instead of 26W or whatever I could cram myself into

-Comparable size to many of the women i know, even though I still have more to lose

-People are INVITING me to ride their horses! Offers I would have never gotten before. I am a good rider, it is just I was so dang huge!

-I can crawl in and out of the bed of my truck (hooking up the gooseneck hitch!). Could not have done that 6 months ago

-I no longer feel like I am made of glass and could break with the slightest stumble or fall.

-I can run, keep up with my dogs, horses etc.

Living the life I want - this is the dream!

So, the weird thing for me recently is clothes shopping. I feel like an intruder in the regular sizes section... like I will be tossed out when somebody discovers I snuck in...lol. I can't seem to find clothes that i like though, it is weird, it looks to me like the cute stuff is int he plus sizes. What the heck is wrong with me??? lol. i don't think I have any danger of becoming shopping obsessed.

I so know what you mean about the riding. I got thrown last year and if I were fit, I could have landed on my feet or avoided it in the first place. As it was, I landed on the side of my posterior and messed up my lower back for 4 months. I was riding a Morgan horse so weight wasn't totally an issue with her, but still, there were many I could not ride.

Good rider or not, you just do not have the same balance, coordination or reaction time.

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THAT IS SO AWESOME!!!!

So, somebody 'splain to me...... it's been years since i've worn anything without a "W" in the size. What's the difference between an 18 and an 18W? More fabric in certain spots? Wider? Longer? What's the dealio?

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16W is for Women's....which means it's larger for a "woman" than a regular size 16. If you shop at Lane Bryant (or similar store) which I'm sure most of us ladies do or have shopped there....all of their clothes are W's. I remember when I started putting on the weight....I could still fit into a size 16 Lane Bryant but I could not fit into any "regular" store 16's...and so it began 10 years ago!!! I am so excited to read these posts and KNOW that I can get back to the old me. I can't wait for people not to recognize me! :)...for being skinny and not fat....I went through that too...that is horrible.

CowgirlJane - you inspire me!!!!!

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I understand the clothes thing...I am beginning to fall otu of my clothing. I have exactly 5 items I have bought for myself that are my size now, that are not tshirts. I literally wear my co workers hand me downs...

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Sounds like alot of NSV's in your neighborhood! Good for you.

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I'm so happy for you =) I am really looking forward to being able to ride again sometime, this really gives me hope!

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Well, women's clothing are sized so crazy and very inconsistently. there is a lot of variation in where you fit. I am not a lane bryant shopper, so I can't say about their brands, but in general the 14W and 16W are a good size bigger then the "non W" sizes. I was at Macy's and all the plusses were way too big. Same with Fred Meyer (variety type store). I was at costco and they had non stretch jeans - the biggest they had was a 16, I was thinking they would be too small, but they fit!

Last time I was in normal sizes, clothes were smaller for the same size. 10-11 years ago I got down to a similiar weight, but was still wearing 18W or 1X. Sad but true, clothes are "growing" with the nations ever increasing obesity epidemic. They call it vanity sizing. I wish they would just go to a simple numeric system more like mens clothes.

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So, the weird thing for me recently is clothes shopping. I feel like an intruder in the regular sizes section... like I will be tossed out when somebody discovers I snuck in...lol. I can't seem to find clothes that i like though, it is weird, it looks to me like the cute stuff is int he plus sizes. What the heck is wrong with me??? lol. i don't think I have any danger of becoming shopping obsessed.

I totally get this. A few years ago, I was in a store looking for a gift. A sales person walked up to me and said "we don't have anything that will fit you here". I was hoping that I could go into that store and look around and then not buy anything as revenge. Unfortunatly they are out of business so I'll just have to live with the fantasy :)

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I totally get this. A few years ago' date=' I was in a store looking for a gift. A sales person walked up to me and said "we don't have anything that will fit you here". I was hoping that I could go into that store and look around and then not buy anything as revenge. Unfortunatly they are out of business so I'll just have to live with the fantasy :)[/quote']

I cant tell you how many times i have been approached at certain stores and given a snobby "you are familiar with our sizes, right"? The only exception is Tory Birch where theywent out of their way tobe helpful :)

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