I am 49 years old and my brothers are 59 and 54. In other words, old enough to know better. They have been treating me like crap ever since I have become obese, about 12 years ago. It is getting to the point where I am wondering if I ever want to be around them anymore. It hurts me so much because they are the only siblings I have, no sisters. I am very hurt by my brother's most recent comment: "How can you stand her at home all the time?" He said that to my husband. I was embarrassed, hurt, crushed... Mom says they love me and ask about me all the time, but they treat me like I am a pain in the rear and are VERY disrepectful to me. I have forgiven and forgiven. I really love all my family, but don't know how much more pain I can take. Any ideas out there? I hate the idea of cutting ties with them, but dread their hateful comments too. My heart is aching... I am a good person, a teacher for 23 years, Mother to two beautiful children, Wife to a very nice guy who works hard on my family's land, don't drink, smoke, lie, steal hubcaps, etc etc .. Have a good sense of humor, caring, fun to be around... I just don't get it. I am worthy of respect as a human being and as their sister!

For years my Mom would introduce me by name when encountering friends but proudly introduce my slim sister as her daughter. It hurt and even though she has stopped doing this, it's a pain that is hard to forget. Our families are supposed to love and support us, not tear us down.

my mother wouldn't introduce me at all.

I like the one (reply by 503) where I take the mature approach, look them in the eye and knee them in the crotch

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thats a great plan...

I am 49 years old and my brothers are 59 and 54. In other words, old enough to know better. They have been treating me like crap ever since I have become obese, about 12 years ago...I am worthy of respect as a human being and as their sister!

Murry the "K" used to say, "You can pick your friends, not your relatives".

You may have to give them a choice: "Either you stop abusing me or you are not welcome in my home" (and you stay away from theirs).

Good advice, Tired Old Man.

They have both been nicer lately. Who knows how long this will last. Next time will be the last time and I will tell them WHY I am stepping out of the family scene. Brother who made the comment about "how can you stand her blah blah blah" KNOWS how much it hurt me because I stared crying right away (darn it). I hate that.

I think it's ok to show emotion...but like you when I'm hurt or angry I cry and wish I could hold it back! Sometimes it's good for people to see their effect on you!!!

God BLess,

Melody

Banded 3/20/06 -84lbs :eek: