This is not a success story but I am posting it here because when you reach goal or lower, these are issues that I am dealing with.

So here are the issue I am having now. I get constantly told how skinny I am or that someone does not like me because "your skinny". I get looks, I get stares, and I get under breath comments. I also am constantly being told..."You need to eat more!" or "When are you gonna stop loosing weight, you don't want to look sick?" or "Are you sick, did something happen to you?"

WOW.......this is really getting to me. I know others in my position have or are currently dealing with some of these issues.

I try to be patient and calm when someone offends me, because I do understand, however...it's getting REAL OLD!

I guess when I decided to make the decision to get the sleeve I made this choice for my health, not to yo yo diet anymore which I knew was bad for my health. I made this choice to be able to live a longer life for myself and my family.

I did not once make this choice to deal with any of these issue now. I understand that to some degree, it comes with the territory. What I did not realize is that society and people can be so jealous , mean hearted, and envious.

I keep thinking about a saying......"Watch out for what you wish for"........

So to all of you that are about to start your journey, are in it, or done......these are things to think about. Not that I would not have been sleeved had I known this...more that I wish I had a realization of reality of life skinny......the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence.....trust me, I'm in the neighbors yard and it's not green over here either.

Lydia

What makes me sad is that being obese is so emotionally painful, none of us that have weight issues need more pain! I don't understand why women don't treat each other better, tearing somebody else down doesn't put a person up higher.

I have to admit that I sometimes think that people are too skinny to be having surgery. But, I'd never say that to anyone. I met a gal who weighed around 180 but needed to "lose 30 pounds" and she was talking about having VSG. I was surprised because it just seemed like an extreme solution to a fairly small problem. I know, pot and kettle.

Anyway, I had to remind myself not to say anything to her and let her work it out with her doctor. But, I was really thinking that she only weighs 10 pounds over my goal weight!!!

Oh, and as for clothes, I am the biggest gal I know, so no one is offering me clothes. I have one girlfriend who is close to my size and I keep offering her clothes with the caveat that she does NOT have to take them if they are too big for her. So far, she has taken all I've offered her, but before long I don't think any of mine will fit her. She's having thyroid issues and can't afford surgery so she's gaining a bit. I know she's trying really hard not to, though. She's getting married in March (and I'm officiating, YAY) so she wants to be able to wear the wedding dress she already chose.

Anyway, the others are right. Those who matter will say nice things to you for the most part. Those who don't say nice things need to not matter, IMO. I'd probably let it slide for the first comment or two, but I guarantee you I'd have a comeback after that...and it would probably be something along the lines of: :::haughty look:::: "Did you REALLY intend to say what you just said?" Or, as Miss Manners would do, give the person a shocked look and say "That's not any of your business!"

Good luck with the co-workers. Stories like that make me glad I am self-employed. There may be days I hate my co-workers, but I have to live with me, myself, and I, so I have to find a way to get along with all 3 of us!

No one's ever said anything like that to me, thankfully. Actually, I think there's a proper term for that - "concern trolling." People who are really bitter and jealous and try to express that in passive-aggressive ways.

The funniest thing I've heard lately about my weight was when I mentioned having eaten a whole bunch of Cookies at work....one of the older nurses said, "But you are such a skinny little thing, that sure doesn't show!" If only she knew!

i work at a hospital and is very cordial to everyone.. now i'm getting comments from people i don't even know their names. people are telling me i'm going to blow away if i continue, i'm too skinny, i don't need to lose anymore weight, etc. it does get irritating after a while (if i asked your opinion on should i lose more weight then you can give me your opinion). I am loving my body and now am ready to seriously exercise to tone up and get leaner (i guess i will be hearing more comments ). i'm giving all the ones with a negative comment a mental middle finger, lol.

I'm pre-surgery... 270, 5'9"; size 20. I think everyone has to remember that -probably every female - whether fat, skinny or in-between, is worried about their weight, and as sad as this is, when you're insecure, you always feel threatened in some way or another. I know because sometimes, when I'm feeling very VERY upset and vulnerable, it really makes me feel better to see someone heavier than me.... I'm always relieved NOT to be the fattest woman in the room.

The whole body-image thing has totally permeated society, and we're all victims of it. Some people are mean with it, others are more compassionate. I know this because I'm kind of both ways. Many of my friends are overweight, and I worry about what's going to happen to our relationships if/when I have surgery and lose 100 lbs... Will they be jealous, or awkward, uncomfortable with themselves? Will my losing weight make them feel bad about themselves? Will people who were able to lose weight though other means feel superior to me because I didn't have the self-discipline to lose weight on my own?

Will I feel superior to my overweight friends if/when I have the surgery? What will I do with my friends, socially, when so much of our time was spent involved in eating-endeavors?

I've been fat my whole life.... I have somehow defined myself as a "fat girl, woman." Who AM I if I'm not fat? If I'm not focused on food as my one source of pleasure-comfort?

I'm sorry people can be ugly about others' weightloss and have to try to make them feel bad, somehow. It's pretty nasty, but it's also a symptom of their own insecurities about their weight and their perceived "value."

All good questions and observations.

I'm pre-surgery... 270, 5'9"; size 20. I think everyone has to remember that -probably every female - whether fat, skinny or in-between, is worried about their weight, and as sad as this is, when you're insecure, you always feel threatened in some way or another. I know because sometimes, when I'm feeling very VERY upset and vulnerable, it really makes me feel better to see someone heavier than me.... I'm always relieved NOT to be the fattest woman in the room.

The whole body-image thing has totally permeated society, and we're all victims of it. Some people are mean with it, others are more compassionate. I know this because I'm kind of both ways. Many of my friends are overweight, and I worry about what's going to happen to our relationships if/when I have surgery and lose 100 lbs... Will they be jealous, or awkward, uncomfortable with themselves? Will my losing weight make them feel bad about themselves? Will people who were able to lose weight though other means feel superior to me because I didn't have the self-discipline to lose weight on my own?

Will I feel superior to my overweight friends if/when I have the surgery? What will I do with my friends, socially, when so much of our time was spent involved in eating-endeavors?

I've been fat my whole life.... I have somehow defined myself as a "fat girl, woman." Who AM I if I'm not fat? If I'm not focused on food as my one source of pleasure-comfort?

I'm sorry people can be ugly about others' weightloss and have to try to make them feel bad, somehow. It's pretty nasty, but it's also a symptom of their own insecurities about their weight and their perceived "value."