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BIG secret... good or bad?

I am a very private person and I have decided to share this journey with only my husband (and those of you reading this!). I am very close to my family and I have wonderful friends but I just don't want to let anyone in on my decision to have this procedure. I feel like a failure for all the times I have started a diet and had high hopes only to lose 10lbs and gain back 20. It has happened more times that I can count. Now here I am getting ready for this (8/18 is the big day) and I am just excited and nervous and sometimes in tears thinking "what am I doing?!"! I know this is the right decision for me. I still plan to let no one know about this procedure after it is done. Just me and my hubby :-) And he is so wonderful and supportive. How many of you out there have kept your surgery a secret? After your procedure did you end up telling people? Thank goodness for this site... I am going to need all of you to lean on! I go in a week from tomorrow. My new chapter can't begin soon enough!

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    I feel EXACTLY the way you do! I am so sick of weight loss and diets being the topic of every conversation... with family/friends/coworkers. It never ends. It seems it consumes my life. So much to

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Anyone who I am good friends with or see often has been told about my surgery, my family knows too. I did have a few people who initially were very much against me having the surgery and they are now very supportive, except the person I thought was my "best friend", she completely abandoned me within weeks of the surgery. If people ask I tell them, especially those that struggle with their weight too and if I am going out to eat with someone who doesn't know I tell them too. I choose to tell those people because it honestly looks like I have an eating disorder to those who are not aware now. Between how quickly the weight came off and how little I eat I have had quite a few assume I have fallen into an eating disorder and I would much rather them know the truth than think that of me. In the end it is a very personal decision and you have to decide what you are comfortable with.

The best thing about my transition is the people who see me the most know that I have become really serious about my diet. My husband said in the beginning that if people saw I had lost weight, they won't think anything is unusual. Since I am almost 40lbs down now, it won't look so drastic. My uniforms and pants were already very big on me and all the smaller clothes in my closet fit now. I am out of work for 2 months because of another surgery and plan to get wls while I am out. When I go back, they will just think I have dieted and worked out a lot.

I have told very few people as well. Not sure what to say to my supervisor other then i will be having a surgical procedure and expect to be out x number ow weeks. Any ideas? I would love to hear them. I work in a new office and am not sure what to tell people when I return to work, you know how nosey people can be - HELP please I would love to hear from all of you on this topic.

My suregery date is 8/24/11

I have told very few people as well. Not sure what to say to my supervisor other then i will be having a surgical procedure and expect to be out x number ow weeks. Any ideas? I would love to hear them. I work in a new office and am not sure what to tell people when I return to work, you know how nosey people can be - HELP please I would love to hear from all of you on this topic.

My suregery date is 8/24/11

The great thing about the new privacy laws is that you don't have to say anything other than you are having a medical procedure. If it is the diet you are worried about, don't eat around people. Also, you will recoup fast. Don't reveal. People will sell your loss short!

Everyone is different. Some tell and some don't. Do what feels best for you. Before surgery I told only two people. After surgery, I told my immediate family. Personally, I don't feel the need to tell anyone else but that doesn't mean I wont at another date. Take it one day at a time and remember do what feel best for you. Good Luck.

The great thing about the new privacy laws is that you don't have to say anything other than you are having a medical procedure. If it is the diet you are worried about, don't eat around people. Also, you will recoup fast. Don't reveal. People will sell your loss short!

At my work they wanted a letter from the Dr. saying how long I should be out of work..... it was on Bariatric Surgery letter head....Now I didn't care if they knew, but someone else might....

At my work they wanted a letter from the Dr. saying how long I should be out of work..... it was on Bariatric Surgery letter head....Now I didn't care if they knew, but someone else might....

Same thing happened to me -- the official 'stamp' that the doctor signs on says something like nutrition and metabolic medicine, translates like bariatric clinic essentially. Great, thanks... <_<

At my work they wanted a letter from the Dr. saying how long I should be out of work..... it was on Bariatric Surgery letter head....Now I didn't care if they knew, but someone else might....

Your HR departement cannot divulge anything about your medical history to anyone, that would be a HIPAA violation and there would be serious consequences so I think you're fine..

At my work, we use standard FMLA forms provided by the Department of Labor. These forms are submitted to HR. Our manager/supervisor has no idea what your health issue is unless you tell them..........AND THEY CANNOT ASK YOU EITHER!!! I am glad because I have not intentions of telling any of them.

I'm a sleever from Indy also! My husband, children, and immediate family know. I couple a friends, but no one from work or church. I figure it is my business and not there's. I ask a coworker prior to the procedure about what she thought of surgery to help someone lose weight, boy did I get an ear full, not positive. I decided then to keep it my business. I don't want to be judged!

I am a very private person and I have decided to share this journey with only my husband (and those of you reading this!). I am very close to my family and I have wonderful friends but I just don't want to let anyone in on my decision to have this procedure. I feel like a failure for all the times I have started a diet and had high hopes only to lose 10lbs and gain back 20. It has happened more times that I can count. Now here I am getting ready for this (8/18 is the big day) and I am just excited and nervous and sometimes in tears thinking "what am I doing?!"! I know this is the right decision for me. I still plan to let no one know about this procedure after it is done. Just me and my hubby :-) And he is so wonderful and supportive. How many of you out there have kept your surgery a secret? After your procedure did you end up telling people? Thank goodness for this site... I am going to need all of you to lean on! I go in a week from tomorrow. My new chapter can't begin soon enough!

I am a very private person and I have decided to share this journey with only my husband (and those of you reading this!). I am very close to my family and I have wonderful friends but I just don't want to let anyone in on my decision to have this procedure. I feel like a failure for all the times I have started a diet and had high hopes only to lose 10lbs and gain back 20. It has happened more times that I can count. Now here I am getting ready for this (8/18 is the big day) and I am just excited and nervous and sometimes in tears thinking "what am I doing?!"! I know this is the right decision for me. I still plan to let no one know about this procedure after it is done. Just me and my hubby :-) And he is so wonderful and supportive. How many of you out there have kept your surgery a secret? After your procedure did you end up telling people? Thank goodness for this site... I am going to need all of you to lean on! I go in a week from tomorrow. My new chapter can't begin soon enough!

Hi!! I had to check for a second and make sure I didn't write this post!!!! You sound just like me!! I had surgery on Aug 10th and it's my 1st day of feeling better.

I think any decision regarding your Heath IS very personal and it's your prerogative as to wether you want to share it or not. I have someone I know who said the same thing as us and now she could be the poster child for gastric bypass. So yes... For now I AM keeping it a secret!!!

Best of luck to you on your upcoming surgery. Keep me posted!!!

Hugs!!!

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Hi!! I had to check for a second and make sure I didn't write this post!!!! You sound just like me!! I had surgery on Aug 10th and it's my 1st day of feeling better.

I think any decision regarding your Heath IS very personal and it's your prerogative as to wether you want to share it or not. I have someone I know who said the same thing as us and now she could be the poster child for gastric bypass. So yes... For now I AM keeping it a secret!!!

Best of luck to you on your upcoming surgery. Keep me posted!!!

Hugs!!!

Wow! You just had your surgery... how are you feeling?

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