Hey all

I am happily moving right along ... my solid food start date is July 14 so I am counting down! The first thing I am going to eat is bbq shrimp and some green beans!! yummy lol anyways.. I wanted to hear if anyone has had the same problem I have had. . . I dont see a lot of posts about this, so I thought Id bring it up.

I have a friend who I've known since i moved to Texas almost 3 years ago, and we have been super close.. always together. She is also overweight - not as much as me - but she is. Except .. she has this whole " i like my butt and my boyfriend doesnt want me to lose weight, and if i wanted to do it i could, i Just dont want to" kinda attitude. the last few mos we have not been talking much (for other reasons) and we have grown apart a bit. Anyways, when I told her about my surgery date on June 9th she was like ohh im so happy for you cant wait to see how you look etc etc so on and so forth and she wanted to come to the hospital with my for my surgery...... well .... long story short - we didnt talk at all the week before my surgery, and on the day of my surgery she deleted me from her Facebook, and I havent spoken to her since. She has her own issues in her life that made me turned off to the idea of being her friend.. but still .. we were so close, I didnt want to lose her as a friend completely.. I thought maybe we'd get over the rough patch. At this point, I just dont care. I see how hateful she is, jealous, and just cant be happy for anyone else. In fact.. I plan on taking her my old clothes in a few months and asking her if she wants them so I cant fit them! lol .. ok thats mean, but Ive considered it!

Has anyone else lost any friends or anything like this? It makes me so angry... how can people be so hateful.

I have known a few ppl that have had this problem. It can be threatening to the "friend" when they hear you're going to have surgery. Some of it is jealousy and some of it is fear of being left behind. This seems to be more the case when the friend is one that you have spent years dieting with. If it is a true friend, things will work out. Because any real friend would want to see you healthier and happier.

Keeping in mind that misery loves company. That addadge didn't come from no where. Keep positive people in your life and for those that are negative all the time about life and about you, well to put it bluntly, you don't need them. If you can make her life a more positive then so be it but if you can't then you are better off.