My asst brought red velvet cupcakes for me (my favorite) because it was my last day of eating at work(provided all goes as planned). I start my liquid diet on Monday. As soon as she brought them to me, i started bawling....i think the reality hit me like a ton of bricks....i know i should focus on the big picture, and i am determined to do this. But i dont think i realized how much i love food and how much i am going to miss it. I am dreading the next 4-6 weeks. I was literally on the verge of tears all day and I have a lump in my throat as I write this....I had the same feeling last nite at the bar with friends....like is my life of fun and carefree living over....can i enjoy partying without drinking, eating etc

is this healthy????

I think we can all agree with you! I am now 4 weeks post-op and still struggle with my food addiction, but its in my head, not on a plate in front of me. I have had a cookie and felt awful after eating it! My husband had a gastric bypass 5 years ago and now is back to his old eating habits. I don't want to follow in his footsteps so I try really hard to stay focused!

I know that I feel better knowing that these thoughts are all normal for all of us. Keep up the strength and know that you will find new ways to socialize. I have friends who are now thinking of doing surgery and are begging me to help keep them focused! We are going to start a walking party when the weather gets warmer. It will be so much better than any dinner party!

I'm 4 weeks post op today. While I can't add to what all has been said, and I didn't really personally go thru the food mourning issue I do mourn Wine.

Due to some scheduling complications I had my 2 week post op appt this past Friday (3 weeks 4 days) and I mentioned to my Dr. my Birthday is tomorrow and that I would really like to have a glass of wine.

here is what my Dr. said. As long as you work off the calories before hand (I swim laps) he didn't feel it would be an issue "ON OCCASION".

well that was Friday and what I didn't know was my family had decided to celebrate my b-day on Sat. since Tuesday is a work and school day. Well, long story short. I had my little glass of wine. I swam like a mad man and I lost 2 lbs over the course of the weekend.

What I'm trying to say is.... all things in moderation. learn what your body can tolerate and how hard you need to work to correct a boo boo...

Now the upside of my story... well more upside. Before I went for my swim, I started trying on bathing suits to see what one would look the best. I had bought several on sale at the end of the season and they were too small for me when we went on our cruise at christmas, anyway.... they were all too big (all of them). I had to find a smaller suit from several years back. Now that was worth all the ravioli in the world.

I think the biggest problem i have eating out... my food gets cold before i can finish it. So i sit and watch everyone else in amazement of how much junk they can put back and HOW FAST..... hard to believe that use to be me

Best of wishes... you will find you own rythym. Every ones is differnt. Your wine may be cake or chocolate. Portions control, substitution, and exercise will be key factors in how well we do.

Well said! It is hopeful for me to think about future eating in this way and that few foods will be off limits...we just have to savor the bites we have. Congratulations on the thrill of trying on a bathing suit that is too big! I can't even imagine that yet.

I had surgery on 3-16-11 and continue the mourning phase. I lost my father 2 years ago and felt the raw emotion again after surgery, but for food this time around. I am happy to report that yesterday I made chili and pureed 1/2 cup of it and ate it!! I feel more content and for the 1st time since surgery, I'm "happy" that I did this. Today I went to Taco Bell and had refried beans for lunch!! Not the most healthy choice, but I needed a little splurge after 2 weeks of all the liquids I've gagged down. This gives me some hope for the future!!