So we lose a lot of weight, hopefully make goal, maybe even go beyond. We become average, fit, thin. We wouldn't stand out in a crowd for the largeness of our size, maybe even the opposite in our chubby American society. We get attention like we didn't before. Romantic attention. So, how do we accept the "feelings" of these people who are now attracted to us, when we (pretty much) know we would have been invisible to them before? How can we believe that they are attracted to us for who we are, when we know the dirty little secret ... that WHAT we are makes all the difference.

How?

My hope is that losing weight... maybe someone I am attracted to will actually be attracted to me back. I too wouldn't be attracted to myself like this so I can't expect anyone else to be. I have been the biggest person (or nearly so) since kindergarten. I have always been isolated so the fear and trust issues are definatly there. When getting hit on so often turned out to be a joke, knowing when it's real is pretty impossible. My biggest fear is that when I reach goal, ppl still won't like me and I won't have the weight to blame. Of course... after all the emotional turmoil we've experienced because of our weight over the years, a little more over our weight loss won't kill us.