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Well since others are posting what they are grateful for today, I will jump on the bandwagon.

First a short backstory, my parents and I have had years where we did not talk, not the closest of family's. My in laws have been like a second family to me, but still, with those boundary's I grew up putting around myself.

So, I initially did not want to tell anyone about my WLS. I am a very private, reserved person with most people.

I did though, just in case something happened while on the table. I have been surprised by the response.

First off, since August, I have spoken to my parents more than I have in the last 5 years, my mother calls me to see how things are, just chat, and always ends with "I love you" which nearly makes me cry. She gave me a large monetary "gift" the day I flew out for surgery, insisted on buying me clothes when I hit my first 100lbs, and offered to pay for a gym membership. I am blown away.

My Mother in Law has also been more chatty with me, open, and loving, as well as trying to throw money my way.

My brother in law who is probably my favorite of them all, started crying when I told him about my WLS and was so happy for me. He is a short muscly man's man so this was odd for me. He also insisted that he provide a gym membership for me, sort of a "offer you can't refuse". I have one week to find a gym and give him the information :blink:.

My sister in law....well...ya I still have not told her, she is the negative nelly in the family...I think that one will wait until she notices and says something to me about my weight loss.:)

My partner has been amazing, supportive, super loving, and while I always knew she was the best thing going, it has been reinforced in the past 3 weeks since surgery.

As I sit and reflect about all of these people I tear up because it is not something I have ever experienced in my life, and sometimes I don't know how to deal with it. It is truly a blessing to find out how much people love you. I am so lucky to have people that are so supportive and there for me even when I don't know about it.

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What a wonderful thing that has happened to you, both in health and love. I am truly happy for you! Now make sure you find that gym ASAP. Do you have a Curves or YMCA in your area? I find I dont like gyms that are big like Ballys and LA fitness. I also feel like the Fit people are judging me.

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Well since others are posting what they are grateful for today, I will jump on the bandwagon.

First a short backstory, my parents and I have had years where we did not talk, not the closest of family's. My in laws have been like a second family to me, but still, with those boundary's I grew up putting around myself.

So, I initially did not want to tell anyone about my WLS. I am a very private, reserved person with most people.

I did though, just in case something happened while on the table. I have been surprised by the response.

First off, since August, I have spoken to my parents more than I have in the last 5 years, my mother calls me to see how things are, just chat, and always ends with "I love you" which nearly makes me cry. She gave me a large monetary "gift" the day I flew out for surgery, insisted on buying me clothes when I hit my first 100lbs, and offered to pay for a gym membership. I am blown away.

My Mother in Law has also been more chatty with me, open, and loving, as well as trying to throw money my way.

My brother in law who is probably my favorite of them all, started crying when I told him about my WLS and was so happy for me. He is a short muscly man's man so this was odd for me. He also insisted that he provide a gym membership for me, sort of a "offer you can't refuse". I have one week to find a gym and give him the information :blink:.

My sister in law....well...ya I still have not told her, she is the negative nelly in the family...I think that one will wait until she notices and says something to me about my weight loss.:)

My partner has been amazing, supportive, super loving, and while I always knew she was the best thing going, it has been reinforced in the past 3 weeks since surgery.

As I sit and reflect about all of these people I tear up because it is not something I have ever experienced in my life, and sometimes I don't know how to deal with it. It is truly a blessing to find out how much people love you. I am so lucky to have people that are so supportive and there for me even when I don't know about it.

and even though you don't know us from Adam, we are here for you as well. . . to support you and to help you get to your goal . . . through thick and thin. . . know we are your other family.!:blink:

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That is fantastic Jane. I'm so happy for you, your post made me tear up :)

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What a wonderful gift you have been given ... the support and love of your family.

MAJOR NSV if you ask me. :)

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Wow, who would have ever thought your surgery would open doors to heal some relationships and to get affirmation of the love others have for you! Bravo and best wishes.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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