I have been trying to stay happy knowing that I have not gained. Knowing that unbanded I could be significantly heavier and that I would still weigh 312! I cherish my tiny NSVs and work hard, knowing that I am learning skills that will help me to succeed. I understand that it can take 4-6 months to get restriction. My next fill is this Tuesday (yay).

A friend of mine is really bugging me. She can't understand why I haven't lost more weight. She sounds so disappointed that you'd think someone befouled her birthday cake. I kind of want to scream "What about me!!"

I don't think anyone else should have permission to be publicly disappointed with my weight loss until I say so. That time is not here yet. She is normal weight and always has been. Last time we got together was over a month ago. At that time she said that she couldn't notice that I had lost twenty-five pounds. Ouch. Not sure where to go with this one.

I am starting to feel like a broken toy. One that was supposed to fly, but just flops over and twitches when you wind it. A big disappointment.

Anyone else been here? Did you pelt your friend and/or family member with something foul and sticky? That's what I wanna do...

I am sorry you are angry DerbyGirl, you've got good reason.

What a nasty situation! We have enough in the way of issues without everyone looking to hand over their extra baggage the second we drop a pound.

No matter what they may make you believe-it is not about you. It may make you feel like crap, but the crap was theirs. They just flung it in your direction.

(((derbygirl))) <--Hugs

Thanks to everyone here for the support! I really appreciate it. Brenda

Oh, I'm angry for all of us...probably most of us are going to have to deal with this. I've decided that I'm going to start therapy immediately following the surgery. I'm sure there are going to be all kinds of issues like this that pop up and I want to learn how to properly deal with them so that I don't sabotage myself unknowingly.

derbygirl.....you are spot on. There are always people around who are going to try and sabotage your weightloss success.My mother is the same as yours. For the firsat few pounds she's proud of me but when I start to lose alot of weight she becomes jealous and puts me down. I also have a friend who is the same. In the past when I've lost weight she has told me that being thin doesn't "suit" me and that I look older when I lose weight. This is why this time I have decided to not tell anyone (except my husband and kids) about my up coming surgery. I don't want to give anyone any further ammunition so they can use it to sabotage my weightloss.......I sound paranoid don't I?