Hello Junbies ......

I haven't seen a June Band Crew thread yet so thought I would start it .

I'll be banded on June 9th in Texas. I'm getting very excited about it. I know that the band is just a "tool" to aid in my weight loss journey and it will take a lot of hard work on my part to make it successful. I've been overweight my whole life with the earliest memories being around age 4. Although no one else in my family is overweight, I am extremely fortunate to have full family support in my decision. I know that there are many people who's family doesn't offer the support they need. I would love to meet other pre-bandsters being banded in June to walk with me to the banded side of life and offer each other support.

I wish you all the best.

Melissa Lea :hippie:

Pre-bandster 240 lbs

June 9, 2006

Spivak

self-pay

Hi Girls...

If there's one thing I know from reading the threads, is that everyone is welcome to everything. Welcome to say how they feel, what they think, and how different people share so many similar things. Nothings ever been done or said to personally attack, not include, or make someone feel bad. We all have one common thread - we've all been thru the roller coaster ride that is a lapband.

I may not post as much as I used to, but I do continue to read the June thread - with envy at some of your weight loss - and with happiness that it does work for so many people.

I really do have empathy for so many of you, and you're the only ones I can feel that way about - because I don't know anyone in "the real world" that's been thru WLS - the procedure has bonded us in a way that's bigger than a trip, bigger than so many things, but one thing it's not bigger than - we are ALL together in this.

February is my odd month, shorter, with Valentines Day - and the after affects of all the holidays. Also, I'll be 56 later this month, and I had hoped that I would have lost so much more weight, and with typing that, I realize there is so much more I can do to get back on track. I need to drink more Water, I need to push harder when I walk, and I need to reconsider how I've been eating. ACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Diet and exercise. What a pain.

Randi - Thanks for the post. I understand how it feels to make yourself vulnerable to public posting. I hope everyone will continue to let us know how you're doing. Some of us are pray - ers, some send positive thoughts, but you'll get something if you'll let us know what's happening.

I went to my favorite place yesterday. It's called Teavana and they have wonderful herbal teas. My favorite is a mix of mate vana and rooibos chai. You can order their teas on line. The rooibos gives a little boost like caffeine, but it's caffeine free.

Superbowl netted a gain on the scales and it was still there this a.m. I didn't think I overdid it, but every snack was salty. (no sweets, thank goodness). It's salads for me this week! The sugar habit seems to have lost it's hold. Thanks for letting me vent.

Physical therapist is now going beyond stretches and working my abs. It's not fun and I've yet to get any kind of massage. Rats!!! I've been afraid to do any abs since surgery and I guess it was time.

Hi Girls...

If there's one thing I know from reading the threads, is that everyone is welcome to everything. Welcome to say how they feel, what they think, and how different people share so many similar things. Nothings ever been done or said to personally attack, not include, or make someone feel bad. We all have one common thread - we've all been thru the roller coaster ride that is a lapband.

I may not post as much as I used to, but I do continue to read the June thread - with envy at some of your weight loss - and with happiness that it does work for so many people.

I really do have empathy for so many of you, and you're the only ones I can feel that way about - because I don't know anyone in "the real world" that's been thru WLS - the procedure has bonded us in a way that's bigger than a trip, bigger than so many things, but one thing it's not bigger than - we are ALL together in this.

February is my odd month, shorter, with Valentines Day - and the after affects of all the holidays. Also, I'll be 56 later this month, and I had hoped that I would have lost so much more weight, and with typing that, I realize there is so much more I can do to get back on track. I need to drink more Water, I need to push harder when I walk, and I need to reconsider how I've been eating. ACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Diet and exercise. What a pain.

Randi : Your right nothing has been personally said to personally attack or slam anyone! I apologized to Barbara if I had offended her in anyway about the Vegas trip. She did not even post that she even acknowledge that I pubicly apologized to her.

When Iam wrong,I say Iam wrong and I chew alot of crow.

I actually felt so bad after she posted that I slammed her, that I unsubscried to this thread as not to cause any more trouble within the group.Does that seem fair at all to me? Why did I do it you may ask? To have respect for someone who has been in here alot longer than me.

So you see, Barbara I am still hurt and I have feelings also but I will respect yours and leave the group.

Lisa

Randi - You and I may be on a closer page than it looks. 244 was a high for me, but actually I had gained 20 pounds in the 8 months before surgery. That means those 20 pounds came off easy (I lost 17 the first month).

If you take away the 20, I'm at a 36 pound loss.

I made a generalized statement about being afraid to post that was probably inappropriate. I post all the time. Too much in fact. I appreciate everyone's patience. I vent a lot because when I stay away from the forum, I get in trouble weight wise.

One more thing while we're on slow weight loss or plateau's. Dr. Spiegel says unlike Gastric Bypass patients, we have four years to get to goal before our bodies finally settle in to a maintenance level. The average bandster will consume 1200 - 1800 calories in order to maintain their weight. The 1200 - 1800 calorie remark came from another surgeon's blog, but it does make sense.

I hope this answers the questions/requests for my response. There is nothing more for me to say on the subject.

She did not even post that she even acknowledge that I pubicly apologized to her.

So you see, Barbara I am still hurt and I have feelings also but I will respect yours and leave the group.

Lisa

Lisa, with all due respect, I don't think Barbara asked you to leave the group. Please just take the words at face value - we're all here for support or to give support, and the ability to express ourselves in a nonjudgmental environment.

All Junebies should be included in the trip, and I believe all have been included or asked if they want to participate.

Barbara expressed herself as well. I dont think any apologies are needed at all on either part- you both talked about how you felt, and offered up opinions and facts. It's okay! Time to move on and get with the supporting and chatting The trip will come up here, invariably. I just skim by those posts as they don't currently apply to me (not able to go) and get to the ones that do.

Peace group! :hippie: :peace: (I am actually 36, so the hippie may not apply, but look, it's cute!)

Just a tidbit of statistical data to consider....

Studies show (please don't ask me to quote which, I haven't done enough homework to do that...) that communication is made up of three parts: words, body language and gestures, and tone.

Word=7%

Body Language=38%

Tone=55%

Guess which parts are missing in email and forums???? Kind of ironic that we rely so much on written word for communication, huh?

I met with a local neighborhood support group last night. Most of them had just been banded, the longest one 3 months. What a difference in perspectives from less than 3 months to 7.

I met with a local neighborhood support group last night. Most of them had just been banded, the longest one 3 months. What a difference in perspectives from less than 3 months to 7.

I've been a bit unfortunate in the area of support groups. My surgeon has groups but they are mostly made up of bypass patients, so I'm usually the only one with the band. I've found I have more of a group here!

I met with a local neighborhood support group last night. Most of them had just been banded, the longest one 3 months. What a difference in perspectives from less than 3 months to 7.

I just realized how close to the end you are...only 15 lbs, how awesome!

Only to onderland. I still have another 65 lbs to lose. I decided to change my tracker to plot my progress to Onederland.

I'm feeling a little down today. I've only lost 37 lbs since being banded. I just can't seem to get my act together.

Only to onderland. I still have another 65 lbs to lose. I decided to change my tracker to plot my progress to Onederland.

Hmmm, that's a good idea. I've been trying to think about my weight loss in 10's. (moving from the 80's to the 70's, etc.) I can't get out of the 60's though.....

My current goal is to get on the doctor's scale that has those moveable weights and not have to move the large weight starting at 250. I want to start at 225!

Julie - that is 37 lbs you'll never see again. That is a large jug of water on one of those water coolers. That is almost 4 bowling balls. Put it in perspective. It's all good.

Wow --

Lots of activity going on the past few days. I've been out of the loop since I've been out of town. Socalgal --so glad to see that you are doing alright and recovering well from your surgery. Keep us posted. Also glad to see some of you post that haven't in awhile. I think of you from time to time.

As for Vegas --I absoluetly adore Celine Dion and will pay any price ot see her. I will go alone (I don't mind) or with others if they want to go. But, it's not the end of the world if I do not get to see her this Vegas trip. What's meant to be will be.

Melissa Lea

Lisa, with all due respect, I don't think Barbara asked you to leave the group. Please just take the words at face value - we're all here for support or to give support, and the ability to express ourselves in a nonjudgmental environment.

All Junebies should be included in the trip, and I believe all have been included or asked if they want to participate.

Barbara expressed herself as well. I dont think any apologies are needed at all on either part- you both talked about how you felt, and offered up opinions and facts. It's okay! Time to move on and get with the supporting and chatting The trip will come up here, invariably. I just skim by those posts as they don't currently apply to me (not able to go) and get to the ones that do.

Morning and to all: I know no one told me to leave the group but, I really got my feeling hurt and felt left out. I re-read my post from when I first joined and I felt so welcome like I belonged to something finally!

When I got my surgery I went to no outside support group since the hospital where I had the surgery is in Westercher County(I live in the NorthEast Bronx of New York where there are no hospitals that do Bariatric Surgery) and the support group is once a month.) I also do not drive and its held at a time that is not convient for me to go.

So I sort my support online. I first found support on Obesity Help but as most of you know they mostly cater to Gastric Bypass patients.

When I found this site in October I was so overjoyed that it was all about Lapband and then I found the June Crew and it was just what I needed.

You all were there for me through so much, such as My brother having sugery to remove what we thought was a cancerous tumor on his spine, finding out I am Bipolar, also finding out I can have no more children. The joy of losing the first 50, also getting into a new size of clothes.

You all have been there through the good and the bad and have let me vent and rave.

Yes, I was not there from the start but, when I did come in I was welcome with open arms.

People have voiced their opinions and I have not always agreed and I also pass on post that do not apply to me.

I passed for a long time on the Vegas post, until I started to feel left out because recent ones never mentioned that it was open to everyone and was planned out months ago.

Believe me I re-read all the old post after Barbara mentioned that it was her idea and how it was planned.

I just really wish I could go and had known about it back in October when I first joined the room, then I could have made plans to be able to go and meet those who are going.

Because of my depression issues I suffer from isolation alot and this would have been a great way to meet other people with the LapBand. Iam also a very sensitive person and my feelings get hurt very easy but thats something Iam working on with my therapist.

So, I would like to start over with the group especially with you Barbara since we share the same band anniversary date. What do you say? Can we start over?

Iam here for support, love and friendship,

Lisa