I'm guessing that there's a good portion of banders who had second thoughts before getting the band, how did you talk yourself out of letting fear get the better of you? Did you talk to friends or family and find comfort in them? Or other bandsters?

Also, what was your major fear?

I'm scared of telling people that I am considering having WLS. Especially my family. I guess I am ashamed that I have let my self get so big and don't want to admit that to my kids' date=' as if they haven't noticed, DUH! If I don't mention the fact that I am fat then it can't be true right?!?! Then if I do have it will everyone be watching and waiting for me to fail at this too?[/quote']

Most of my friends don't know I have the lapband. My close friends do but I too failed many diets, they didn't fail me. I'd lose weight and then gain it all back so the only person I have to answer to is myself.

So far, so good but you have to be honest with yourself and worry about you not what other people will think.

Good luck to you!

Many people have already said something similar... But... I as well was completely tired of my situation. Of being fat, of being sick. I felt as though it was my only alternative.... And although the unknown is terrifying, the thought of continuing my life how it was felt worse. That's how I became brave.

I didn't look for a ride-on shopping cart to shop with in Walmart today. I walked with a regular shopping cart. That's major for me!

That is awesome!!! Non-scale victories :]

I'm scared of telling people that I am considering having WLS. Especially my family. Then if I do have it will everyone be watching and waiting for me to fail at this too?

Not people who love you. I don't care what people think, I haven't been able to keep it off on my own, I want quality of life, and this IS me getting HELP. And if for some reason the lap band did fail I would hope you'd be surrounded by people who encourage you to move on to the next thing that could help and support you into not giving up. <3