My problem today is probably emotional a it is physical. My bf thought I was making 'the biggest regret of my life' and he did not support me at all. Mostly because I have lets say about 30-35 pounds to lose and therefore in his eyes I didint need surgery.

I did it anyway, after a lot of thinking and looking back on my weight struggles since I was 8 years old (I'm 35) and didn't want to live the next 35 Years the same.

So since the surgery i have been at my moms not far from where he lives. He has text me, but no phone call and no plan to visit. No I did say to him go on vacation cuz my recovery ain't gonna be pretty, but I'm feeling lonely and disconnected from him. I want to tell him to come, but then again I AM in rough shape, I am not myself and part of my doesn't want him to see me like this.

Would like to hear what u all have to say about this...

I know this is not the same thing but i figured it was similar so i posted here:

My bf is behind me 100% and knows its for health reasons..but what I am worried about is whether or not he will find me attractive later after weight loss. Attraction is a big part of a relationship whether people like to admit it or not. He says he loves me but he has always dated bigger women so im worried. What even worries me more is whether I will find myself attractive afterwards. I find myself beautiful now and am doing lapband for health reasons only. I'm worried about having no curves and it getting to my self esteem. Anyone else have this issue?

I'll agree, attraction to someone is what gets you in the door, but your heart is what keeps him coming home to you! I have lost a lot of weight and I'm a girl that will always have curves! Healthy and thinner doesn't have to mean shapeless! Don't worry yourself about something that COULD happen! If you do that you will miss the joy of the moment!