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Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry for your troubles and the loss of your husband. Every can say how they feel on this forum. I don't promise any ugly responses, but many people here LOVE their bands. Best wishes for you future recovery!

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MsMaui - thanks for posting. I thought it was well put and educational. So sorry for the long suffering you went through but major kudos for being so darn persistent to get to the bottom of it! I think not enough people do that and they end up living in constant misery without knowing why. Good luck in making the decision that's best for you. Given how you have handled everything you've gone through so far I don't doubt that you will make a wise choice!

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I don't think anyone would call your post band bashing. You simply shared your experience, that is very different than the people who get on here and howl "oh the band is horrible and should be taken off the market!".

I think your story is very informative and good information to know. It makes sense, too. At least to me anyway. I have very large hernias. I've had problems with them reoccurring since a botched child birth destroying my abdominal walls in 2002. I've had 3 surgeries and just had an emergency surgery for one that became strangulated in August.

I notice a very direct connection between my band tightness and my bowels. When I'm clogged up or the hernias are sore and I can feel stuff slowing down through the weak spots, I find eating difficult. Like you, once everything moves through, I can eat normally and problem free again.

I think it's just another reminder that sometimes things way beyond our control do happen. I suppose it's simply a risk we all take when deciding not only to have Lap Band but any WLS.

Best wishes to you and I hope the rest of your journey finds you healthy

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Thanks Cheznoel, but I didn't lose my husband, my father in law.

So sorry, I misread!

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Thank you for sharing your story. I am always thankful to learn more, but I am truly sorry for what you have gone threw. You are a very strong person! I hope everything gets better for you.

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So sorry you experienced such problems but why so many visits to your pcp and not your band doctor? He would have been the first person every single time that I would have seen. No I dont think you are band bashing but I think you spent more time with your pcp and not enough time with your lapband surgeon and I would not have seen his PA either I would have asked for him personally.

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You werent kidding about kindda long...~laughs~

but it was very good interesting reading...

Sorry for your familys struggles....

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I see no need to think anyone is assuming you are not an adult and know your anatomy however too much time went by without an answer. You lapband surgeon is not just a surgeon but educated on the complications of the band that he placed inside you. Another thing is pouch dilation occurs from over eating which may have been the major cause of your problems. No need to get offended because I was not assuming you did not know your own body but certainly if things were getting that bad I would not have waited so much time without an answer.

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ms maui

sorry to read of you experience

wishing you better luck in the future

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Im not saying it was your fault. I simply said why did you wait so long for an answer. I said dilation occurs from over eating which MAY not WAS the cause of your problems. I am not insinuating anything was your fault. No need for the dont blame me game. I was not blaming you I just said why did you wait so long. Gee whiz if you dont want answers then dont post long post that people take the time to read and then get offended because you did not get the answer you were seeking.

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